Una introducción necesaria
Aquí les dejo algunos elementos que nos permiten alimentar nuestro amor propio
Comienzo con algo bien fuerte: Dedícate. Es una orden directa al alma. Dedicar es apartar un tiempo sagrado, que no se negocia. Y la primera condición es aceptarte totalmente. Qué difícil resulta esto en un mundo que nos empuja a corregirnos constantemente. Aceptar no es resignarse, sino mirarse al espejo y decir: estoy completo, con mis luces y mis sombras. Esa dualidad es la esencia de lo humano. La luz no brillaría sin la sombra que la contrasta. Reconocer mis miedos, mis errores, mis defectos, y no rechazarlos sino integrarlos... solo así puedo caminar sin tropezar conmigo mismo.
Dedica tiempo para ti. ¿Cuántas veces postergamos el descanso, un hobby, un simple café en soledad, por atender las urgencias de los demás? La frase come como eres me recuerda que el alimento no es solo físico. Necesitamos nutrirnos de autenticidad.
Ponte como prioridad. Duele al leerlo, porque nos han enseñado que priorizarse es egoísta. Pero no puedo dar lo que no tengo. Si mi vaso está vacío, no puedo calmar la sed de nadie.
Haz más de lo que te gusta. Este es el antídoto contra la rutina gris. Es rescatar ese niño interior que dibujaba, corría o leía por puro placer, sin productividad de por medio.
Enfócate en tus sueños. No es una orden ingenua que te invite a perseguir lo imposible, sino un recordatorio de que tener un norte, por pequeño que sea, da sentido a los días grises. Mis sueños pueden cambiar, pero el foco me mantiene vivo. Y para sostener ese foco, necesito amor propio. Que no es vanidad, sino un pacto interno de respeto.
Decirme merezco cuidado cuando fallo, merezco perdón cuando me equivoco o expresar lo que siento me saca del silencio cómodo pero asfixiante. Las emociones que no se nombran se enquistan.
Escuchar mis emociones me pide un paso más: no solo expresarlas, sino atenderlas como mensajeras. El miedo quizás me protege, la tristeza me pide pausa, la rabia me habla de un límite vulnerado.
Sé tú mismo siempre. Ser auténtico es esencial en un contexto que constantemente premia las máscaras. Cuesta, porque a veces ni siquiera yo sé quién soy. Pero el intento constante de volver a mí mismo ya es un triunfo. Y para lograrlo, necesito un entorno saludable que aconsejo siempre: Rodéate de gente positiva. No me refiero a personas que niegan el dolor con alegrías falsas, sino a aquellas que te sostienen, que te ven, que no minimizan tu luz. Es una selección consciente. Porque la energía se contagia.
Un comentario final
He dejado para el final dos consejos que me parecen esenciales en este objetivo de alimentar nuestro amor propio: Elige lo que te hace bien y elige tu paz mental. La paz mental no es un estado pasivo, sino una elección activa. Es decidir no entrar en discusiones que dañan, no seguir pensamientos que torturan, no quedarte en lugares donde te apagan. Es decir, no a tiempo para poder decir sí a tu calma.
Y todo esto se corona con ser agradecido. No una gratitud ingenua que niega el sufrimiento, sino la que reconoce que, a pesar de todo, hay algo que sostiene: un amanecer, una mano tendida o tu propia respiración.
¿Qué piensa usted?
Nota: He utilizado el traductor DeepL Translate.
Las imágenes son de mi propiedad.
ENGLISH
A Necessary Introduction
Today I want to share with my readers a piece on self-love, something so important that we don't fully appreciate it. In this post, I'll talk directly about what we so often forget in the daily grind, to try to explain why existing isn't the same as living, and that taking care of yourself is an act of courage, not selfishness.
Here are some elements that allow us to nurture our self-love:
I'll start with something powerful: Dedicate yourself. It's a direct command to the soul. Dedicating means setting aside sacred time, which is non-negotiable. And the first condition is to fully accept yourself. How difficult this is in a world that constantly pushes us to correct ourselves. Acceptance isn't resignation, but rather looking in the mirror and saying: I am whole, with my light and my shadows. That duality is the essence of being human. Light wouldn't shine without the shadow that contrasts with it. Recognizing my fears, my mistakes, my flaws, and not rejecting them but integrating them... only then can I walk without stumbling over myself.
Dedicate time to yourself. How many times do we postpone rest, a hobby, a simple coffee alone, to attend to the urgent needs of others? The phrase "eat as you are" reminds me that nourishment isn't just physical. We need to nourish ourselves with authenticity.
Make yourself a priority. It hurts to read this, because we've been taught that prioritizing ourselves is selfish. But I can't give what I don't have. If my cup is empty, I can't quench anyone else's thirst.
Do more of what you love. This is the antidote to a dull routine. It's about rescuing that inner child who drew, ran, or read for pure pleasure, without any productivity involved.
Focus on your dreams. This isn't a naive command inviting you to chase the impossible, but a reminder that having a goal, however small, gives meaning to gray days. My dreams may change, but the focus keeps me alive. And to maintain that focus, I need self-love. Which isn't vanity, but an internal pact of respect.
Telling myself I deserve care when I fail, I deserve forgiveness when I'm wrong, or expressing what I feel pulls me out of the comfortable but suffocating silence. Emotions that aren't named fester.
Listening to my emotions requires a further step: not only expressing them, but attending to them as messengers. Fear may be protecting me, sadness asks me to pause, anger speaks to me of a violated boundary.
Always be yourself. Being authentic is essential in a world that constantly rewards masks. It's difficult, because sometimes even I don't know who I am. But the constant attempt to return to myself is already a victory. And to achieve this, I need a healthy environment, which I always advise: Surround yourself with positive people. I don't mean people who deny pain with false joy, but those who support you, who see you, who don't diminish your light. It's a conscious choice. Because energy is contagious.
A final comment
I've left two pieces of advice for last, which I think are essential to this goal of nurturing our self-love: Choose what's good for you and choose your peace of mind. Peace of mind isn't a passive state, but an active choice. It's deciding not to engage in harmful arguments, not to dwell on tormenting thoughts, not to stay in places that drain you. In other words, saying no in time to be able to say yes to your calm.
And all of this is crowned with being grateful. Not a naive gratitude that denies suffering, but one that recognizes that, despite everything, there is something that sustains you: a sunrise, an outstretched hand, or your own breath.
What do you think?
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