There is a sister I respected so much, and we grew up together because my mom's shop was in their house. My mom rented a shop in their house, so we've been together since since when we were young. I respected her so much since then because of how humble she is among her father's children. She was the third child of her father from a family of seven children.
When she finished higher institutions, with her father's influence, she was able to get money from his father's friends and those who worked together with her father because her father is a respected man in my town and a man of influence, and he is a bit rich. So because of this, she was able to acquire capital to start her business.
Because she is very intelligent, unlike other children that didn't do anything after graduation and they are expecting their father to use his influence to get them a job or capital to start a business. This sister is growing her business even still now. When she was single, she had many suitors always coming to her shop, but unfortunately, she got pregnant to this man, and we are all happy for her, and she got married.
I always look up to her for her intelligence and the wise decisions she always makes in her life. She gave birth to her first born with CS(cesarean section), second and third all with CS, and we all thought they will stop there since she already have three children with CS. Recently, I noticed she got pregnant again, and then I heard she got pregnant again because her husband said she wants many children, and if she doesn't have more children, he will marry another wife. So that is the reason she has to get pregnant again and try to risk her life.
I was disappointed because this particular decision is wrong and is not an intelligent decision at all, risking her life for a man that has never paid for her hospital bills. The three CS she had were paid for by her father. Now she got pregnant again solely because she wants to keep her man to herself. Who cares if she marries another wife? I am so disappointed in her because she didn't love herself more to say no to that. This decision of hers conflicts with my own values and mentality, and whenever she has had this CS, it has always been a moment of serious pain for her.
This particular act made me drop the respect I have for her and her husband. That is why is good to marry a kind man that will not think of himself only but also her wife. I pray she has a safe delivery, and we are praying for her, and we pray nothing will happen to her. With that kind of mentality of trying to keep her husband by all means, not considering her own life, made the respect I have for her reduce completely, and I don't think I can look up to someone with that kind of mentality.
