When you hear masturbation, the first thing that comes to mind is probably touching yourself to cum, funny thing is it’s way more complex than that. The mistake women make is they compare male masturbating to females but our body is definitely more than just rubbing and cuming. Masturbating for us is sensational, passionate, sexy, warm and ecstatic, at least that is what it should feel like.
To enjoy masturbation, you need to be prepared physically and psychologically. You need to be in a well ventilated room so you don't feel too hot which may turn you off. You need to practice good hygiene as you don’t want to infect yourself as you will be thrusting your fingers in and out.
Let’s focus more on Squirting
The G Spot is the most important area to focus on when learning how to squirt. It’s located on the upper wall of your vagina, between 1 and 3 inches from the entrance.
Please understand that your G Spot is hard to find when you are not aroused. However, when you are aroused it becomes quite engorged ]. When it gets bigger, it feels soft, spongy and slightly ribbed to touch. It’s texture feels similar to the roof of your mouth, yet much softer.
When you stimulate the G Spot, you are also going to be stimulating a gland just above it called the Skene’s gland (sometimes called the Female prostate). The Skene’s gland is located around the walls of the urethra. The Skene’s gland is where you squirt or ejaculate from. You can’t stimulate the Skene’s gland directly, as it’s not actually on the inside wall of your vagina. Rather, it’s just above your G Spot. So you can only stimulate it indirectly when you stimulate your G Spot.
Getting yourself both comfortable and relaxed is the priority. Everybody has different routines to relax and loosen up. For you, it could be lying in bed in a pair of pants while for someone else it could be while taking a shower and washing yourself. You may find that you need to do a little bit of experimentation to find out what works best for you.
Then you need to get yourself aroused. While getting yourself aroused, don’t worry too much about your G Spot. Focus on the other areas of your body. Ideally, you should try to spend about 20-30 minutes getting yourself worked up to the point where you are eagerly awaiting an orgasm.
As you get yourself aroused, it will start to make your Skene’s gland swell[5] and get bigger, which in turn will make your G Spot get bigger and more sensitive. Sometimes, this swelling of the Skene’s gland can make it feel like you need to pee. This is simply because the Skene’s gland is located right beside the bladder and will start to put extra pressure on the bladder as it swells.
At this point, your G Spot should also be sufficiently enlarged and sensitive enough to find easily with your fingers. Remember, it’s located on the upper wall of the vagina as indicated in the diagram below:
THE HOOK
The hook is the best technique using only your hands. To perform it, lie down on your back and slide your hand down your stomach, with your palm facing your belly. When you reach your vagina, insert your middle and ring finger, leaving your index and pinky finger outside and pointing down towards the bed like in the diagram below.
Now, you need to find your G Spot with the tip of your fingers and start to gently massage it while your hand is in the Hook position. There are a number of different ways to massage and stimulate your G Spot using the Hook
PUSH THE BUTTON
You can press your G Spot repeatedly with your finger like you would press a button. Make sure to experiment with how much pressure you apply. Lightly pressing can be enough for some women, while others need intense pressure. This pressing can be pleasurable, but the next techniques are much more likely to make you have a squirting orgasm.
COME HITHER
Making a ‘come hither’ or ‘beckoning’ motion with your middle and ring fingers will allow the tips of your fingers to run over and back your G Spot, providing yourself with a lot more stimulation. Again, make sure to experiment with the amount of pressure applied and with the exact location of where you apply the pressure. You may notice this technique and Push The Button can tire your fingers and wrist out quite quickly.
THE ARM SHAKER
The Arm Shaker is like a combination of Push The Button & Come Hither…on steroids. Instead of using your fingers and hand to provide stimulation, you are going to use your entire arm. First, you need to keep your fingers firmly in place, with the tips pressed against your G Spot. Then you need to start using your entire arm to provide pressure, a lot more pressure than previously.
Do this by keeping your arm quite stiff while trying to raise and lower it rapidly. As your fingers are pressed against your G Spot, you will be able to provide massive amounts of pressure to it. This is almost guaranteed to make you squirt.
SEX TOYS
Optionally you can use a sex toy like dildos or if you prefer a penis shaped vibrators. There are even many specialized G Spot vibrators you can use to stimulate your G Spot.
There is no ‘one true method’ to make yourself squirt. Everyone is different, so make sure to experiment with lots of different techniques to see what works best for you.
