Beating over yourself because you are lost? Not sure whether you are heading in the right direction or not but are also too scared to look back? Don't care about light at the end of the tunnel but just want the tunnel to end? STOP.
We live in an era of gender neutrality. We are strong and independent women. We get up in the morning, make our coffee, go to work and pay our bills. We have amazing family and friends who are there for us when we need them. Everything seems to fall right in place, but does it?
Why is it that no matter how modern or independent a woman is, she is always waiting for a man to rescue her and apprehensive to admit it because well, we are a set of modern women. We have been taught to be on our own ever since we were in high school, yet, we have the concept of our knight in a shining armour instilled deep within us. Ever wondered, what if there is no knight in a shining armour? Would Cindrella have rescued herself had Prince Charming not showed up? Or would sleeping beauty have woken up without true love's kiss?
I do not detest the concept of a soulmate. It is absolutely fascinating to find someone, you can call a companion. However, I do detest the unfulfilling, incomplete state of emotion women put themselves in when they don't seem to find one. Yes, they say, you never know when and where you will find someone you click with and I completely agree. But what until the time you don't? I do not have a great dating history and neither do I deal with similar situations any better; doesn't mean the trend has to go on. Recently, I came across a fascinating school of thought, which blew my mind.
"Before you decide to marry someone else or be someone else's companion, marry yourself and be your own companion. Be there by yourself in health and sickness, happiness and misery. Be kind and honest with yourself. Believe in yourself. Accept and forgive yourself when you've let yourself down. Encourage yourself with compassion."
We are all nervous and worried about the future, here. However, this shouldn't be a reason to hold you back. You have survived heartbreaks, pain, all the lonely nights, being single at weddings and you've been just fine! You will be just fine! Instead of anxiety getting the better of you, be grateful for everything you are and you have. Rejoice because you get to be with your best self. Un-guard and unleash yourself from the shackles you've put yourself in. Live a little more!
