Dating an Independent Man

You've heard of the independent woman.

There's something about the way she moves, she walks like a boss, talks like a boss and she pays her bills on time. Her car and crib - she's about to pay them all off. She's fly effortlessly.

And in case you sang that, that's okay, for who could resist Neyo's "Miss Independent"?

Something that I have yet to read and hear from, however, is the independent man. How is he like? Is he good date material? Is he worth the shot?

I am now in a loving relationship with an independent man. Now before you say "Sana all" (Filipino for 'I hope everyone has that'), let me tell you that it takes a lot of trust and understanding. Don't all relationships, though?

Dating an independent man, at first, felt too good to be true for me. But overtime, the challenges have reared their heads and it led me to almost call it quits but I realized in the end that the independent man, like the independent woman is worth it!

Here are some of the things that I learned in my two years of dating one:

1. The independent man's mistress is his dreams.

This man will spend most of his time going after his dreams. Luckily for my man, I understand this because I am going after my goals as well. If you're the kind of woman who wants her man to be spending more time with you, prepare to have arguments over this because he can't give up his time for his hustle. Don't mistake this as him not caring though. If you take some time to ask him why he is working so much, I'm willing to bet that you're on his list of reasons too. That is, if he's really serious about you.

2. The independent man knows what he wants

Duh! He went after you, right? That's proof that he's got taste. Hahaha, he knows what he wants and he knows just how to get it. When an independent man focuses on one thing, more often than not, he will stop at nothing until he achieves it.

3. The independent man can buy things for himself but loves it when you buy him his favorites too

Especially if his love language is gift giving, your independent man will smile from ear to ear if you gave him his favorites. They accept and delight in some loving too!

4. The independent man lets you do what you want.

This has got to be my most favorite part - he lets me do what I want. He gives me the freedom to enjoy things even if I'm not with him. At the bare minimum, he just wants to check on me if I arrived safely to my location. He doesn't make a fuss about who I'm meeting, he just wants to know why we're meeting and where. So if you're someone who values her independence, you'll surely enjoy this about your man.

5. The independent man values alone time and time with you.

He also loves time alone. Give him some space to do his own thing. He may need some relaxing time to clear his thoughts and to chill, just allow him to do that. It takes trust and genuine care for him to be able to understand this. Just remember that he chose you for a reason, and you can see his sincerity when you finally have your time alone with him, too.

Like the independent woman, the independent man is not hard to love. It just takes time and understanding to be able to get into their line of thinking and get used to their love language. After all, nothing worth having comes easy, right?

What's your take on dating an independent man? Let me know what you think in the comments section, fellow Hivers 😊

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