Happiness is within us. Happiness will always depend on the person himself. Happiness doesn't always include laughing cause it often shows love, contentment, less stress, confidence, security and calm, etc.
How to be happy?
Love ourself despite our flaws.
All of us have the flaws that makes us not happy of ourselves and make us not to be confident in facing other people. If we accept what we only have, we will surely love ourselves and appreciate it. All things we have depends on us. If we appreciate the things we have in life, we will be open for other things that will make us improve ourselves better. As the time that we accept ourselves and love it, our way will be widely open and clear because we're not being clouded with things in mind about our flaws. If we stressed out ourselves with things about ourselves that we don't like, we're still the one who'll suffer. Let us free ourselves with those flaws and insecurities. We can't love other people if we can't love ourselves . If we felt jealous with other people because for us they have perfect figure or more, we should look back to ourselves of what we've done to make things worst so that way, we'll able to change the way we bring ourselves everyday. Looking to yourself in the mirror will help you think of things you need to do to improve, don't compare yourself to other people, instead compare yourself to your old self before. And think of things to improve what needs to be improve and start to love yourself.
We should be thankful of things that we received in life. Instead of complaining for problems that we encounter in life, much better to think of solutions. Sometimes we gets weak because of those problems, but always tell yourself that problems make us strong to face life. Without those problems, we'll not be able to achieve goals in life. If we appreciate things we have, many blessings will come on our way.
Forgive those who hates and done bad deeds to you.
In order to be happy we should know how to forgive people who had done mistake to us. It doesn't mean that we need to connect with them again just to know that we already forgive them. Deep inside, we should know that we forgive them already and more. You don't need to act in front of them again. Inner peace is our priority to be happy. Forgive them but don't connect with them again, one toxic moment is enough and move on.
Focus on those people who loves you.
In order to be happy, we should focus on those people who surrounds us with love and respect. We should not waste our time with other people who brought toxic to our lives and dragged us down. Instead, we we'll focus on helping and loving to those people who truely loves us. Those people who loves us despite of our differences will surely bring us the happiness in the heart. Those people who accept us for what we are and who we are. Those people who are ready to be there when we need them and vice versa. Those people who supports our interests in life. And those people who will help and teach us to be a good person.
To be happy in life, we should know what's making us happy. We don't need to be a liar to ourselves. We should be true to our self to prevent from hurting that deep. We should not please other people even if inside you are hurting and you are neglecting yourself for others. You will not be genuinely happy if you will do things that other people want you to do.
The old me always do things to make other people accept me even if those things were against my will. I did what people want me to do even the fact that I am not comfortable with it. But when I got older, I learned to love myself and I told myself 'I want to be happy because I am me.' . When that happened, I changed myself to better. I became easy to please and easy to be happy. I can easily appreciate things that I have. And I have peace within myself.
