Don't be fooled.
Size matters.
But, this doesn't mean that knowing how to use it doesn't matter too.
Do you know how to use yours?
I am talking about resources.
The ones you have available, including your physical resources, like your health, and your mental stability. Because these things will impact on how you use your other resources also, like your social relationships, or material availability, like your monetary value.
It is all connected.
When identifying a client's skillset and looking for where there are strengths, weaknesses and gaps, it is also necessary to cross-check it with the needs of their job. Or in the case of most of my clients, the job that they are aiming for next. In general, we work a role with a specific skill landscape, and while all skills don't need to be high, pretty much all skills need to be to a passing grade. However, the next job on the career path might have a lot of overlap, but it will likely need or benefit from additional skills. If looking to move to the next stepping stone, closing skill gaps makes that leap far more possible, and if done right, will also be supported by others in the organization.
As you can see, in that paragraph, personal and social resources are important, but this isn't to say that the material aren't needed too. Quite often, we need to be able to have the space to learn, which generally requires time and resources too. But what is interesting, is that while we might "want" certain outcomes in our life, we don't necessarily align our resources to get them. Or, we make it very difficult by not improving our skill landscape.
There are many examples I could add here, but in general, if a person doesn't have a decent amount of resilience, patience and the ability to deal with loss, they aren't going to have what it takes to be an investor. Similarly, if a person is highly emotional and unpredictable, unable to take criticism, and are injured by anything they perceive as an attack on them, they aren't likely going to have a good time of it trying to monetize social media.
We just aren't all built the same.
Or, perhaps we almost are.
But there is a huge difference once we start looking at our experience, the lessons we take away from them and how we feel about and apply what we have learned to our practical lives. Two people who come out of the same event, can have very differing opinions and takeaways. And then, how they use the lessons learned in their lives, can also vary a lot.
I was thinking a little about this whilst at the gym and given two people in the same kind of monetary problems, where they don't have enough and are suffering financially. Each can take very different paths to find a way out of their situation, but does the way they choose matter, or only the outcome?
Person 1 gets a second job, cuts back spending, starts investing a little and two years down the track, finds themselves in a relatively good financial position.
Person 2 joins a ring that steals identities and commits credit card fraud, covering their debts in six months.
Taking the "moral and legal" arguments out of the conversation, Person 1 has probably developed some personal skills, some social skills, and learned how to leverage their resources better, hopefully being able to maintain and improve their trajectory into the future. Person 2 however might have actually degraded some of their personal resources, like self-respect. They probably haven't built up a healthy social network they can rely on, and they probably haven't legitimized the material resources through investing, as the paper trail doesn't allow them to.
Crime pays well at scale. Petty crime doesn't pay much.
Available resources are like a cupboard full of ingredients, but they can't cook any meal we might want. When we know what is in the cupboard however, we are able to then workout what is possible to prepare, or make a shopping list of what we need to get to fill the gaps. Then, there are also things we might want to add that complement the dish, so that it isn't just a basic meal for survival, but something special, something that will be appreciated. If we are looking to cook something specific though, we have to make sure we have enough of the right ingredients to get the job done.
What do you want to eat in your life?
Do you have the right ingredients in the cupboard, the right equipment in the kitchen, and the right skills to put it all together?
We each have a set of skills that we can use to their potential, or waste. But, they are not the only skills we might need in order to accomplish our goals, so we have to look at filling the gaps through learning and practice, or buy the skills from someone else. However, you can't buy personal skills. You can't buy motivation, emotional resilience, mental skill, experience or wisdom. These aren't spices, they are fundamentals of the meal. If they aren't available, it is going to be hard.
It's how You use it.
You use it as you do.
Taraz
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