Not everything we do can reach even our own standards but sometimes it is necessary to push it forward due to the many reasons that can come between what we targeted and we were able to achieve with the resources at hand. It could be time, money, strength, skill or any other limitation imposed that gets in the way but even the perfectionists must at some point make do with what was possible at the time.
These are outtakes from our wedding photos, the ones that didn't make the cut so have not been processed too much other than a little rough cleanup work. Looking back, I might review and reprocess the chosen photos again. Yes, we have selfies for wedding photos as it was just my wife and I in a field in the country, a quickly setting autumn sun and a camera with a WiFi connection. It wasn't ideal, it wasn't what I had envisaged but, it fit for us at the time with what we had available and to me, that is more important than reaching perfection, it suits us as a couple better.
My wife and I are adaptors and are the types to not set hard rules expecting that things will go to plan, as there is much too much experience to the contrary in our lives both together and apart. Things shift and change daily and just when things seem to be in hand, another wrinkle appears or, a stick in the spokes of the wheel to send us tumbling. Nothing has stopped us yet though, we have always picked ourselves up, dusted away the grime of the road and moved forward albeit at times, a little worse for wear.
I love my wife a lot but she is a double edged sword. I am so happy that she is by my side whilst knowing she also deserves much better than I have been able to provide her so far. Sometimes, outtakes of life are not enough and a little perfection and fairy tale are required. It seems so little to ask of the world to have just a little perfect from time to time doesn't it?
The problem is, there is either no perfect possible due to the nature of nature itself as it is always shifting and evolving or, everything is always perfectly imperfect and is always doing the best it can in the eternal moment of the now. My view leans towards perfectly imperfect where we all do the best we can with what we have now but this does not mean we are unable to do better a moment, a day or a decade later with what we will have then.
None of us are finished until our mind, body and heart stop moving which means until that point, we can keep learning from our experience and adapting to be better suited in the moment. So, until I am better, I will do the best I can. Perhaps that is the lesson of fairy tales, they are an illusion but, we can still try.
Taraz
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