I feel our parent did the best they know how to while bringing us up, that’s why we never get complimented and praised for our good part.

I have a different experience, as they did differently with some of my siblings. They weren't as interested in my outcomes.

Feelings are ment to be expressed.

I am not so sure about this. I think feelings are meant to be guides, not instigators of action. Too often today, people feel they are entitled to express their feelings, without considering if their feelings are even valid, let alone if their reactions to them are justified.