Happy warm weekend community. It has been a hectic week but we need to appreciate health, wellness and the breath of life. And I hope to find you all enjoying the weekend with your loved 🥰 ones by your side.

Thanks to hiveghana for bringing an all round interesting topics for this week. And I have chosen to write ✍️ on # Friendship.A topic that will take us back to some past years of experience and with memories of either a good or bad friendship. Like in 20 years back? This is when men were boys and women girls 😀.

And to the point on this topic. Friendship is a vital issue as we all have had troubles, be it small or big with those we called our friends while growing up, in secondary, colleges and even in the offices. Friendship is that one thing many of us could not do without because its an emotion of being together with other people and sharing common feelings. A relationship with those we think 🤔 we can bond with, trusting and believing in them as people we can trust.

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Trust is the first thing we usually have in mind when having someone as a friend because we are not mind readers, so we believe we are in the same alliance with those we have bonded together as friends, but this is where we make mistakes. Trusting those we are not siblings with, no blood relationship of any kind and most of all, one or those who comes from different background and with different # personality.
In a friendship circle of many, everyone has their hidden character you can not dictate easily, a hidden agenda to pry on.

If I could go back to give my younger self some advice on how to navigate friendship I will focus on the following:

1️⃣ # Personality : This is the most important aspect of life characteristics that deals with human behavior. Humans do not change their characters instead they tend to hide and pretend to act in a way they are not. For me to choose a friend or friends, I will make sure to study with patience those Who has the same personality as mine because humans never change. Someone I feel that values friendship a lot.

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2️⃣ # The Less The Better: Having two many friends at the same time is like walking 🚶🏿‍♀️ and waiting for a time bomb 💣 that will definitely go off someday. Why do I need so many friends at the same time? This is the invisible problem most people in a friendship do not see. When friendship is beyond 2 or at most 3, you are calling for trouble all around yourself.

3️⃣ # A Minimalist : Being in friendship and moving with those who does not match or live the same kind of lifestyle as you could pose a problem in the future in a relationship called friendship. It’s advisable to choose one who lives a simple lifestyle as you so that the issue of envy and jealousy will not arise amongst you when it cones to clothings and dressings . And even extravagant spending which most times makes friends to fight over money issues. Since I live a minimalist lifestyle I make sure to cut my coats 🧥 according to size

Friendship is what we can not do without but we should not be in haste while having to form one because we may end up falling into a wrong group or a bad egg 🥚 which the experiences are most times of bad memories.