Lessons Learned from a Betrayal: My Experience with Cheating

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Due to the situation of things, which could be anything from self-interest to desires, we find people who cheat on others to get what they want. They do this without thinking about the negative side effects it may have on others; all that matters is their gain.

This is a basic idea I have about why people cheat.

There are different levels to cheating, and one of the most common aspects is _{although not everyone sees this as cheating} borrowing money from someone and choosing not to return it again. If you don't see it as cheating, I personally do.

And why so?

If cheating involves breaking an agreement or rule, then how is this different from cheating? We agreed on a certain condition and time frame for returning my money, and you refuse to pick up my calls because of this. Then you certainly cheated me.

Although it has been a while since I have been in such a situation, this is because I have been very careful about who I borrow money from since my last experience. It taught me a big lesson: I should only borrow money I can let go of.

So most likely, if I borrow someone money, this means the money is spare and has no future plans for how to use it, and I can let it go. If it is not, I would tell the person I don't have any money on me, even though I have exactly that amount on me.

All this depends on a lot of situations. I once wrote an article that covered when not to borrow money, which was a long time ago.

I would be sharing my last experience of being cheated of my money. This was about 4 years ago, and it is an experience that I am grateful for, not because I lost money but because it made me wiser in person.

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STORY TIME

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If you read my posts very well, I may have shared the experience before. So let's begin:

I had this friend that I transacted with. He sells musical instruments and some other equipment, like parts that you may need to change in your equipment. I buy stuff from him, and sometimes he gives me stuff on credit that I can pay later, and I make sure I do it on time.

A time came when he called me, requesting money to get some items online that he needed urgently for his sales and that would yield a lot of profit. He sounded desperate, as if if I don't give him anything, he can die.

And stupid of me, I had my school fees with me at that moment, and due to my pity nature, I gave him the money, and he promised to return it in the month ending with interest on it too. I was more particular with my money; the interest is not important.

I vividly made him know what the money was for and how important returning the money would be to me.

When the time came for him to return the money, he started asking for more time, then moved on to not picking up my calls, and when I called with a new number, he picked up the call and gave me excuses.

It went over a month, and then I realised this guy had cheated me and had no plans to return my money. I had a lot of evil thoughts about dealing with him, but the angel in me said I should let him go; better days are ahead of me.

I was in pain; I even caused him We were just entering the new year of 2020 back then. He made my new year unhappy, but you know what? 2020 became one of the best years for me, as things were going really well for me on Hive.

I was able to raise the 40,000 naira from Hive to pay my school fees, as there is no way I could explain to my parents how I lost the money they gave me to pay my school fees. I would get a lot of scolding, and I would not have peace in the house again.

And now, I have grown to be a better person and wiser, especially in the aspect of borrowing people's money.

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𝙰𝙱𝙾𝚄𝚃 𝚃𝙷𝙴 𝙰𝚄𝚃𝙷𝙾𝚁

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