When someone makes a request from us, we're meant to reply with either a yes or no right??? Emphasis on either. But for some people, it seems there's no such word as "no". Rather, it's a yes or yes to every request no matter the effect it ends up having on them.
I know it's good to help others in any way we can but in situations when we just can't or the help needed is for something insignificant or moronic to the eyes of all, then why say yes??
Though I won't lie, sometimes I go ahead to do things I don't want just to put a smile on someone else's face. But again, I know when to give a big no in response.
Sometime ago, a friend of mine was dating this guy she was so in l潭o潭v潭e潭.... actually infatuated with. When he had asked her out, she didn't cease to blast my eardrums with screams of excitement. As time went on, a day wouldn't pass by without her going on and on about how sweet he was to her.
However, things got pretty interesting when this perfectly perfect guy broke up with her in less than a month and I received the honour of listening to her cries and profanities. Except I was wrong to think that would be the end.
Precisely three days after, she called me and made an inane request. She wanted to know if there was another girl in the guy's life and if not, then find out the the type of girls he likes......... through me. Her plan was to send his WhatsApp contact to me while I chat him up smartly and dig out the information she needs.
As a private investigator or what?
When she stopped talking and looked at me eagerly waiting for my response, I couldn't help but let out the best laugh I'd had in a while. It had to be a joke right? But the determined look on her face told me otherwise and my laugh died on my lips. Right there and then, I realised she wasn't just infatuated but obsessed and I refused to be part of such a sickening obsession.
I asked her what she would gain by doing such and her response was anything but encouraging. Then I said no. She begged, I refused, begged again and I refused again. She flared up and threw insults at me and I gladly took it all. Afterall I understood her actions were as a result of puberty's hormonal changes. When she eventually calmed down, I sat her down and we had a heart to heart conversation.
This guy has made it clear that he doesn't want you anymore so why are you trying to force yourself on him?
Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want you and as such won't value you?
Why would you choose to make yourself a liability or burden to someone when you deserve to be treasured?
That is something I can't and won't do so there's no way I was going to aid her in making a fool of herself. If not for anything, she has a reputation and her self dignity to protect and I was glad to have refused her request which turned out to benefit her in more ways than the serenity I felt within me.
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