Staying in my lane, keeping a low profile has always been an act I've held onto and display quite a lot, up to the point that I can call myself an expert at it.
Not that I don't link up with the people in my life either. It's just not in the deserved way... Talk about once in a double blue moon.
That was until a close one laid a complaint to and against me, lol. This certain someone chatted me up on WhatsApp one fateful day and as usual, we exchanged pleasantries.
Next, he made a thought provoking statement, that I never chat him up unless he messages me first. In spite of me being online daily.
And of course, he expressed how hurt he was by my indifferent action towards him. He stated that I might be busy with life activities but touching base with others would be a priority for someone who bothers.
Also went on to say he had tried pretty hard to overlook the whole thing but he couldn't help it anymore and despite the fact that he knows my not-checking-up on him doesn't mean I didn't care, he would appreciate if I expressed it. While he was still alive.
His words struck a chord with me and effortlessly sparked the willingness for a significant change in my long time lifestyle. Something I never thought was possible.
Crazy enough, he wasn't the only one whom I lived by each day of my life without reaching out to but his openness advocated for a change in my interaction with every other soul.
Just one person can indeed change everything.
I might not have skyrocketed from no texts and calls to checking up per second but I did change. Significantly I must say and I'm proud of myself for that.
You know what they say about calling that loved one and letting them know you care, wordlessly?
I believe I'm pretty close to that phase if I'm not there already and I just never knew how stirring it was until I began implementing it and could feel the joy radiating from my loved ones when I call and simply say,
"Aww I just wanted to know how you've been."
To be honest, I've felt more fulfilled over the past months of inculcating this habit than all these years I'd sat pretty and tell myself they're all great.
I know very well that, my approach to life when scrutinized will show up a lengthy list of habits, beliefs and thoughts to be ironed out and I'm willing to embrace all the changes. One at a time.
And just one person wouldn't be bad either.
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