Well, if you think I am going to take the well-trodden route you are wrong. I love being dependent, it doesn't feel like being chained. I love my independence too. Hey, wait I’ll explain this properly, hang in there.
I am vulnerable, all of us are. Vulnerable people need support and I don’t mind depending on others, when I mean others, I mean my loved ones, the ones we trust, the people we believe in. We are naturally wired to be together depending on each other, we are a pack.
It makes us human when we learn to be dependent, I don’t mean being a parasite. I don’t pretend to have all the skills or all the talents I need in life. I often ask for help and I depend on people to help me understand or teach me something I need to know. Does it make me bad? Of course not. Does that make me seem stupid? Well, that is up to you to judge, but I am okay with being dependent, see this as normal.
The beauty of dependency
Have you seen images of a father carry his child on his shoulders?
It's the vulnerability of the child and the strength of the father that makes the picture so complete and beautiful.
That is what makes that relationship so meaningful and perfect in its own way.
I love being dependent on my husband, do you want to know why? Because he loves to do stuff for me. It makes him feel good, why deprive him of that? I enjoy the attention as well. This is love, and in love we want to do things for each other. We want to depend on each other for little things while we still give each other the space to grow. The truth is in a relationship we are always dependent on each other much more than we give credit for and this helps strengthen the relationship in more ways than you know.
I don’t have a father now, but when I had one, I knew he always had my back, I could depend on him and thought nothing wrong of it. So why are we so caught up with this thing called 'asserting our independence' sometimes to some silly lengths.
If you are still not convinced
Let me explain this differently. I love to depend completely on God. You know where I am getting to now.
When I depend on God, I trust in him completely, so completely that I don’t worry about anything else.
I know he will do what is best for me.
I believe that even though I walk through the valley of calamity he is with me.
I fully understand that even when things don’t look too good, he is in control.
I know I can always depend on him; He is my father. He has my back.
I love to be human, dependable, dependent, loving, giving and vulnerable too. Vulnerability has often been equated with weakness, but I believe any weakness can work as your strength if you know how to handle it.
Most of all I love what vulnerability teaches me, it helps me remain humble; that is what dependency teaches me – humility. It teaches me that I can never do everything by myself, this life I live is dependent on so many people who play a part in it. No matter what your belief is we need people, all the time.
However, I don’t expect much from anyone, if it comes my way it is an added bonus! I am super grateful for it! If it doesn't I am okay since I didn't expect much.
There are times and seasons for everything we could remain reasonable independent, but what I want to say here is it is okay to be dependent and vulnerable to a certain extent , there is nothing wrong with it.
Be yourself, don't let the world tell you how you need to look.
Thanks for taking the time to read and respond.
