permit me to say that marriage is not define by age, as age is merely a number. Thus, marriageable men and women may decide to get married to whom ever they love irrespective of the age difference. I think the most important thing to be concerned about is compatibility and a bilateral or consensual commitment which surrounds values expectations, goals, intellectual and emotional alignment, Communication and the ability to build trust deeply and strongly. The emotional and intellectual strength to handle difficult issues and in difficulty times.
Marriage isn't for boys and girls ( one might appear mature but lacks marriageable qualities, making him/her immature for marriage. In this case, such a person is not considered to be marriageable. irrespective of his or her age; maturity is not a game of age, therefore one has to be well developed in the state of the mind before considering this very pathway to marriage).
The truth is, age differences doesn't really matter, but it plays a significant role in marriage too. You might ask how? yes! It plays a very big role depending on the age ranges of the couples involved. Marriage is all about "satisfaction, pains and endurance. Now lets talk about satisfaction for a while.
Satisfaction in marriage: Now there is a difference between a 20 year old lady and a 40 year old man when it comes to Intimate fulfillment ( sexual satisfaction) the same with a 40 year old lady and a 20 year old man,. Now they could be other areas in that marriage where satisfaction is fulfilled, But when it comes to this very area of their lives, they could be a very huge gap in delivering a well satisfied intimate play and good romantic connection.
Do you know that there are a lot of married men and woman ( according to research) who for long have not experienced what they call sexual satisfaction in their marriages? You might thing that this isn't important, but I can tell you that a research has shown that most married men and women who haven't found intimate satisfaction in their marriages, ends up becoming cheating partners. (you can do your research too).
While becoming a cheating partner is an abomination in marriage {and even in a normal relationship, but this is with no legal commitments and conjugal oath} There is a very high chances that this can happen or is happening in marital homes. With no regards to every other areas of satisfaction. This is very important to know about before deciding to marry that person that is way older than you are. Even with a well mature mind of yours, possibilities are that if you do not find satisfaction here, you might be tempted to find that elsewhere out of your marriage, and that would be called; "Adultery".
Pains and endurance: compatibility matters a lot in marriage. But when it comes to being with one who is far way older than you are, It will take extra level of maturity to sustain the marriage. Now, as a person grows, there are behaviors and characters that are being unfolded. In the case of an older person, behavior changes widely has a result of aging effecting his or her ability to deliver the same kind of expected feeling, thoughts and even reactions to his or her spouse leading to friction in communication and sensitivity.
Please understand that growing up together makes a happy home. You can't expect a 60 year old woman to reason like a 30 year old lady. there is always a friction and unsatisfied responds. The ability for you to get through all these will be seen has the pains and endurance you have had in the marriage, which greatly defines your MATURITY.
I wish that you read and understand this. This article is not meant to discourage anybody of his/her decisions in life, but to help you review your decisions before you make the final step. Guide your decisions with understanding knowing that days are fleeting. What you know today, might not be that tomorrow. I perceive that this prompt might be in response to something or from someone who is actually curious to find his or her way as related to marital issues of this kind, I pray that wisdom leads you!
Am looking forward to reward your comments.
