Over the years I have witness being cheated, it got to the extent that I became so timid and lost boldness to speak up as a child. I disliked some elders because they used seniority to always proof a point. When they discovered that they are wrong, to apologize to me becomes a burden and being the last born I always have to apologize everytime. I always want to air my opinion at every opportunity but most times they bury my idea and left me heart broken. Whenever I couldn't take it anymore I cried my hurts out behind the close door.
After listening to series of motivational speaker and gospel preachers I came out of my shell. Anytime I know that I am right in any argument I will make sure my opponent understand that he/she is wrong and must take responsibility for their actions.
Just this concluding week, one of the food vendors dragged a student to the staffroom calling her a thief. This young girl started crying and said she has never stolen in her life. The old woman insisted she stole her money. After adequate investigation we discovered that the girl forgot to pay the woman after she has even collected her balance from the woman. Her thought was that she had given the money to the woman which made the woman to give her her balance. The girl innocently handed both the money given to her initially and the balance of what she bought to the person that sent her. After the money was discovered the girl apologized for her mistake and the case just went like that.
To me, the woman owe the girl an apology too, she judged her base on her experience with other students. She called her a thief in the public and dragged her like a slave. I aired my opinion to my other colleagues but what I got was the bad trend of how things are done in the society. They feel how will the elderly woman be apologizing to a girl she can give birth to.
I feel so concern because that is what the younger ones are learning. When they grow older they find it difficult to take responsibility for their actions. They hurt people's feelings and get away with it because they are older or they are their senior in rank. I could see why bullying is the order of the day. I wish I could redo somethings and just correct some errors.
I feel apologizing to the young ones will not only make us right but will also make them replicate it. Parents should apologize to their children when they are wrong, elders should apologize to the younger ones and seniors should apologize to their juniors to make us a better example. Let's take responsibility for our mistake and not just keep up getting the apologies we fail to give to others.
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