What does it actually mean to have healthy boundaries in our relationships?
How can we accomplish healthy boundaries in our relationships?
You can watch my video talking about this topic or read my text below the video. Whichever you prefer :)
Yesterday I had a long conversation with a very good friend of mine on this topic, as she had an argument with her companion and felt quite shocked, and disappointed by their disagreement. That is why I thought this is a great opportunity to share my advice given to her.
THE MEANING OF BOUNDARIES
The purpose of setting a healthy boundary is, to protect and take good care of you.
Every healthy relationship needs CLEAR boundaries, focus, rules, and goals to be successful and most importantly to be STABLE.
SETTING HEALTHY BOUNDARIES:
Never discuss important issues over the phone call or any another social media texting, and email communication. It will get you into trouble most definitely and not only that. It can end up in a deep fight just because you couldn't fully express your opinion and affection. ALWAYS take your time to be physically present. This is very important!
Be fully aware of your dislikes and likes. If you're not aware of them you also can't or don't express them the way you would like and you, are confusing your partner or your children, friends etc.
Express your love and needs. Tell your partner what are you missing in the relationship as they can't read your mind. Try to tell your partner when they cross the line, don't hold it inside. It will eat you inside and set resentment towards them.
Be direct and honest with your boundaries and tell your partner if something feels uncomfortable to you. Be clear about your boundaries as well as with your love and affection for them. This will bring you even closer.
Try to use an "I statement" when discussing with your partner or with whom you are having a discussion. Instead of you "YOU ARE not helping me with cleaning the house or YOU never take the garbage out" Try to you use "I would like if you would take the garbage out or "I would really appreciate if you help me clean the house the house". It works like magic.
Try to use a sandwich approach. Meaning, start with a compliment, continue with the critic, compliment etc. If we start and continue with criticizing we won't get far. Our partner will feel offended and defensive. Who wouldn't feel attacked and unappreciated, right?
I hope this was helpful. Hit the reply and let me know.
To your success, love and quality communication with setting healthy boundaries.
Talk to you soon.
Much love,
SR*
Previous posts:
Friendship is important
https://steemit.com/freewrite/@sasharay/friendship
Follow your dream
https://steemit.com/story/@sasharay/follow-your-dream
How pornography affects teenagers and children
https://steemit.com/youtube/@sasharay/how-pornography-affects-teenagers-and-children
The feeling of traveling
https://steemit.com/travel/@sasharay/the-feeling-of-traveling
Life is an opportunity - it's all up to you
https://steemit.com/life/@sasharay/life-is-full-of-oportunities-gra
HOW TO BE A CALM LEADER TO YOUR CHILDREN
https://steemit.com/youtube/@sasharay/how-to-be-a-calm-leader-to-your-children
