And we should always care for them
We had this marriage to attend, someone's daughter, who is treated as one of my elder brother, even though is not our blood relative or even having relation from family. Coming from a very poor family, not having enough education, he started his career as a construction labour and came to work when our house was built in the nineties. Known for his truthfulness, he slowly grew to become a supervisor, having his own team along with all the infrastructure, who can take up the entire construction work, and finish as committed, and within a very reasonable price, which always favored him. He took over all our work slowly, and even owned them as if it was his own work. In that process, he started treating Mom as his mother and Mom felt him as his child and he became part of the family. In times of needs and urgency, he would come immediately after hearing the news, and we now treat him as a family member.
This occasion was his second daughter's marriage, and he organized it in a temple at the day time. Right now, its pretty hot now , with temperature reaching to 45°C, and Dad usually is very reluctant to step out and we even don't recommend. But for this event, he wanted to attend this at any cost and Mom was quite enthusiastic to finish all work early and be ready to go there.
Seeing their excitements, I took off for few hours from work, and take them to the event.
Didn't know even Dad has this with him, but he came with the gift, and wrote it himself - feels so good to see his memory working spontaneously.
No air condition, not even a fan, but their mind was already accepting and enjoying the ambience under the trees.
The groom came directly without any lavish procession, that usually happens, but was quite normal in this case, affordability is the biggest factor.
At the marriage rituals started, we headed for the lunch.
There were no sitting arrangements, except for few chairs, and it was fine for most, but Dad started sweating heavily in this congestion. So chairs arranged for him with a standing fan, giving him some breather.
Not an usual arrangement and more ever, we had a ritual going in our family ( Dad's aunt died - the last one from that generation), so he had to adjust with a vegan lunch, even though fish and chicken were available.
But he was still happy to attend this event - a commitment to relationship that has been built over last few decades.
Sometimes our own blood relatives or family members do not bother to care for us. There was a time ( may be two generation back), when ethics had greater value, but unfortunately, they are fading fast and I feel, relationship is going to be solely based on how best its honored by both, be it our own child even.
Do you agree ?
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