There are certain times I just want to be all by myself. I think I have been doing that recently. Not wanting to engage in conversations or having to put up with unnecessary noise from the neighbors. It also applies digitally, and this is where I uninstall all my social media apps so that I don’t feel the pressure to reply to messages or finding out what the latest trend is on TikTok. There’s just the need to want to take some time off everyone and everything, and I think at some point in every other persons lives they also feel the same even though they don’t really admit it.
And just because someone is alone doesn’t mean it is the same thing with loneliness because people are often fond of mistakes these two terms for each other. If someone prefers staying indoors or spending time without friends around, others might assume that something is wrong. But I don’t think that is always the case. Someone can be perfectly fine but at that period just needs a little space, and I don’t see anything wrong with that.
Personally, I actually enjoy those moments when I can sit quietly and think about things without anyone interrupting.
There was a day I was indoors throughout the day, when I finally stepped out of my room in the evening to go get something my neighbor was shocked that I was around the whole time and was just seeing me at that time. Most times I could just be reading a book, writing down my thoughts, or just listening to music with my earbuds. Sometimes the time I spend with myself could be taking evening walk for about 25-30 minutes. And all these does me a lot of good in various areas.
Another thing I have come to notice with spending time alone is that it gives you the chance to understand yourself better. When you are constantly surrounded by different people with different opinions and points of view it starts to become difficult to hear your own thoughts. You may find yourself nodding in agreement to things they say just to avoid arguments or even see yourself doing certain things just because everyone is doing them.
But when you begin to carve out time for yourself you find yourself being able to slow down and reflect on things. You now have the chance to think about your decisions, your plans, and even things that have been bothering you. Sometimes, you discover that a problem you were thinking along was complicated just needed a little time to look into. But because you were being choked up or distracted with one or two things you were unable to make out time for it.
This not in anyway telling you to avoid people or shut everyone out. As a matter of fact good company is very important, and there are moments when having someone to talk to goes a long way. But all I am trying to say is there should be a balance.
You can enjoy people’s company and still appreciate your own. You can love your friends and family without needing to be around them every single moment.
I think people should come to the point where they learn to enjoy their own company. Because I believe there will always be moments when you will have nobody around, and being comfortable with yourself can make those moments much easier during such times.
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