What do you feel when pretending to be someone else? You may feel strange, not relaxed, unhappy, or do not enjoy life. It's not impossible also you do not have many friends.
Of course, these feelings and conditions are the opposite if you are what you are. Unfortunately, you feel yourself is not easy. Moreover, you do not know where to start.
Do not worry. You can be yourself so that you are happier and more enjoying life. To help you make it happen, here are 7 ways to be yourself that you can try.
- Accept yourself for what it is
If you've been pretending to be someone else because you think you've got a lot of shortcomings, stop it now. Take a deep breath, and accept all the deficiencies as part of you.
Do not complain. Do not be angry. Do not be shy. Remember, God created you with all His will.
For example, your skin is not as white as your friend. Accept it, because behind the color of your skin there is the power of God.
By accepting all the deficiencies you have, you are honest and trust yourself to be happy. If not you, who will accept you as well as you?
- Know yourself
Accepting any shortcomings may make you able to recognize yourself. If otherwise, it does not matter. Some of the questions below can help you recognize yourself:
What are your strengths and weaknesses?
What do you like and dislike?
How do you interact with others?
Are you happy because of money?
What kind of life do you really want?
- Make your strength as an identity
From answering some of the above questions, you will most likely know your strengths. Well, make that power as your identity.
For example, if your strength is writing, make writing your identity. Tell everyone that you enjoy writing and want to become a reputable writer or earn money from your writings.
- Do not worry about what people say or think
Pretending to be someone else is usually caused by anxiety about what people say or think about you. To eliminate this cause, from now on do not worry or worry about what people will say or think about you.
Why? Because you can not control the thoughts and words of others. In addition, you also may not please everyone.
Take a look as you wish. Do what you love. Please yourself.
- Focus on your goals
Another way to be yourself is to focus on your goals. For example, if your goal is to become a best-seller writer, focus on making book after book useful to others.
In practice, you will face obstacles or obstacles. That's normal, and keep it focused until your goal is achieved.
- Love what you do
When you focus on the pursuit of a goal, you may be left with doubts so that you want to go back to being like everyone else. Eliminate the doubt by loving what you do.
Remember, many people do not love their work. According to a Gallup survey conducted in 2013, 70% of employees in the United States hate his job.
- Do not compare yourself with others
Over time, you will achieve success, whether it's a small success or a big success. Grateful for the success, and do not compare with the success of others.
For example, in your authorship career, you are only able to write 3 pages of books every day. Be grateful for that and do not compare you to other writers who can write 30 pages a day.
Why? Because if you force yourself to write 30 pages every day, you may not be ready. It may be that you do not need to write 30 pages every day because your situation and conditions are different from him.
Being yourself is not difficult. Try practicing the seven simple steps above right now. Indeed at first you will doubt or difficult. However, rest assured, sooner or later you will be yourself as it is so happier and more enjoy life.