In this article you will learn:
Back to the past: what brings it back;
Fathers and children: what are the differences;
What lessons can we learn?
The phrase "it was better in our time" is paradoxical. It is spoken by every generation. And it's not that it was really better before. The fact is that, as adults, we indulge in nostalgia for the good old days, as our parents and grandparents did before us. But the last decades of rapid progress are really very different from the past, making the difference between eras strikingly noticeable. What has changed in people's minds over the past 30 years, how it affects their appearance, way of thinking and life, this article will tell you.
Back to the past: what brings it back
Today, it is customary to make condescending jokes about the "Soviet" way of thinking of past generations. However, we must pay tribute to our predecessors: they had many difficult trials. What are the terrible war and hungry post-war years, as well as the troubled 90's. All this time, the firmware was rooted in the minds of Soviet citizens, which they carried through life, and then passed on to their children. If your age is 30 or so, you, in one way or another, are also not alien to the beliefs instilled by older people.
Here are the most harmful of the Soviet vaccinations:
Fears for what people will think;
Inability to part with the obsolete (applies to both material and moral values);
Save all the best for the ghostly " later»;
Inability to accept praise;
Not allocate;
Suspicious of everything new and unfamiliar;
Feel guilty when you feel good while someone is feeling bad;
Pick up everything that is unattended;
Belong to the " clean plate Society»;
Interfere with other people's relationships and give unsolicited advice;
Evaluate the present in favor of the past.
But, no matter how heavy the load of psychological blocks that the past has awarded, most people remember their childhood and youth with a smile and nostalgic sadness. We all remember the taste of ice cream for three cents and the ecstatic sinking of the heart when you roll down the ice slide on top of a briefcase. We remember how the whole family watched good and naive Gaydaev movies on TV without a remote control. As amicably dressed up the Christmas tree and in unison parents shouted " Hooray!"at the may day parade. The past has given us unforgettable moments and we should pay tribute to it for these bright pictures in the gallery of memory.
Fathers and children. What are the differences?
Despite the fact that people, as Woland noted, have changed little over the past 2000 years, the way of life and way of thinking of the last three decades has undergone significant changes. In fairness, we note that there was no better or worse then. It was different then and there. In any era, you can find minuses and pluses. Therefore, we will not condemn or justify anyone. Our task is to compare objectively
Flexibility of thinking
Due to the circumstances that developed during the Soviet years, the society put forward numerous requirements and restrictions. Restraint in behavior, modesty, and, of course, submission. The ideology was based on the unconditional authority of those above. Dissent during this period was strongly suppressed. As for us, we know that the one above is not always right. We realize that to think differently is not to resist, but to seek objectivity. This makes it possible not to resist changes and to adapt to them painlessly. And without these skills, you can't survive in the modern world.
Family and children
As you know, the family is the cell of society on which this very society rests. For a 30-year-old man of the Soviet era, it was shameful not to have children and a family at this age. He was treated with suspicion of frivolity and unreliability. And conversations "about it" in open discussion were reduced to a phrase that has already gained immortality: "Well, we do not have sex, and we are against it at all." Today, this kind of cliche is a hopeless archaism. We talk openly about sex and its problems. We are not in a hurry to start a relationship and take responsibility for raising children at a young age. Other equally important aspects of life come to the fore: work, Hobbies, travel, and self-development. As for the family, it is still important, but now it has new formats: childfree (conscientious rejection of children), same-sex marriage, surrogacy, and so on. The attitude to these innovations in society is very ambiguous, but these realities take place regardless of General opinion.
Fashion and contemporary art
There is nothing more contradictory and beautiful than the world of fashion. Bright, multi-faceted, inspiring, it delights and outrages, moves progress and dictates its own rules. Fashion and modern art are not just a passing whim inspired by a mad artist. This is a reflection of our history and the imprint of a generation on its canvas. Today, fashion does not limit us to look the way we want. Gone simply a cliché, but at the same time, and the notorious shortage. The chronic lack of beauty has disappeared, which forced our mothers to contrive in the transformation of typical monotonous clothes. The modern beauty industry with its abundance of products and services also matches the fashion world. It is not surprising that today 30-year-old women look younger than their peers of the Soviet era. In this respect, we were definitely more fortunate.
Information and technologies
If the Soviet people had the opportunity to look into the future for 30 years ahead, they would not believe their eyes. During this short period, progress has moved so far that even yesterday, considered fantastic novels, have already found their reflection in life. In this regard, huge amounts of information have fallen on modern people. As they grow in arithmetic progression, our consciousness becomes more and more disoriented and sad. Now there is no problem with finding the necessary data, as it was before. However, their overabundance is also harmful. We and our children live in the virtual world more than in reality. New types of addictions and psychological diseases are emerging. As the overall level of well-being increases, so does the number of depressions. Overabundance of information is the scourge of our time.
According to the survey, only 29% of people under the age of 30 would like to live in the era of their parents. The rest of us are satisfied with the era of our days. And this is normal. We are children of our time with all its complexities and charms. With its pace and rhythm. With its requirements and bonuses. And it is in our hands to make the results of a similar survey of our children sound: "I like my era 100%."