Love as a Team, Not a Subscription

Everyone loves differently, as we all speak and understand love differently. It is okay to say there is no love without money, since money is what we need to get things done, to communicate, to go on dates, to visit our partners, to do virtually everything.

I have always believed that love is not supposed to cost you more than you can bear. In accordance with our culture, a man is to provide for his woman; he provides for her what he can, knowing what she needs and according to his ability. When a woman is not appreciative of the efforts he puts in, it becomes another story entirely. A healthy relationship functions like a team rather than a subscription. A partner should see your potential and be willing to help you achieve your goals rather than to be with you only for the purpose of consuming your scarce resources.

I have had my share of genuine love and of a more transactional kind of love. You know, a woman loves you when all she wants is to see you progress and will do as much as she can to support your progress; she is never demanding. She will even go to the extent of putting in her resources in the relationship. Otherwise, she is always demanding, and any of your activities with her have to involve spending your own money, even when she is well-financed. She wants to go on expensive dates and will refuse a cheap date.

I have seen people who believe that they have seen love without money firsthand from their parents and are never willing to go down the same road that their parents passed through, where both had little and as a result, they had to live from hand to mouth, and because of that, they may have decided never to be in a relationship without money.

The most important thing when it comes to love and money is having a partner who understands your financial state and is willing to struggle with you, a partner who is willing to align their long-term goals with yours. Having a partner who believes in you and is willing to bet on you. Love goes beyond.

As much as I believe that love without money is so much more stressful and sometimes unhappy, it is never always about money; having a stable income is sometimes all that is necessary and a partner who is not only understanding but also supportive.

My name is @rishagamo, and this is my response to the Hive student week 38 prompt, Title: “LOVE AND MONEY”.