What Do You Want That Change to Look Like?
Christopher and I got divorced before we got married. Several
months into our first engagement, he abruptly severed the relationship and refused to communicate with me, crushing any hope
of reconciliation.
Two years passed. While typing a document at work, he had
a seemingly random thought: Maybe I made a mistake. Not long
after, he called me to ask if I would consider getting together to
discuss what happened. Eight months later, he proposed a second
time and I said yes again, to the consternation of many friends and
family members.
As the wedding date drew near, the forecasts we received from
these friends were soberingly consistent: “Be prepared. You guys
are going to have a hard first year of marriage.” They weren’t aiming
to discourage us. They had witnessed our tumultuous premarital
