1. Stand Up Straight With Your Shoulders Back
Lobster Neuro Chemistry - Serotonin Governs Status...just like in human beings.
Your posture determines your well being...influences your serotonin levels..can monitor your dominance with serotonin...this means the 'dominance hierarchy is a matter of posturing..."
Determines negative emotions to positive feeling...changes the way entire system responds to the world....
Correlation between your dominance systems and your posturing....
Prone to defened beleifs....sensitive to neuro chemical positioning...hierarchy positioning...
Part of brain that recognizes hierarchies is old.....
How do you want your society to be structured? Smart hard working people succeed?
2. Treat Yourself Like Your Someone That You Care About
Meditation on treat your neighbor how you would like to be treated
Invitation to Reciprocity
You have to figure out how you want to be treated.
It's not about just wanting everyone to be nice..
Often is the case that people will treat people better than they will treat themselves...which is also not good...Need to learn how to best care for ourselves..
why people don't like themselves very much...fragile...self-conscious...foolishness....errors..
Harshness...Malevelance ...knowing your weaknesses....'universal problem'....'love the sinner but hate the sin'
Take on the attitude for yourself that you would give to someone else that you care about - moral obligation.
you have something valuable to bring into the world - you are in the best position to do so
reasons do not justify mistreatment of yourself.
3. Make friends with People who want the Best For You.
Ethical responsibility to surround yourself with the best people.
Might not be your family...
Be careful with who you share good and bad news with...
4. Compare Yourself to Who You Were Yesterday...Not someone Else Today
Pareto Principle
Those that have more will get more
Always people that are 'Better'
You Need an "ideal" but an "Ideal" is a "judge"...Catch 20/20...You need a goal...but differentiate it down into steps with reasonable probability with success.
You need to stop comparing yourself to others...no one else is exactly like you...you don't know the details of anyone elses life.
Aim High - Use You as Your control...Compare to your past...Be incremental in Your self-Improvement...Compound Your Best Interests.
"He who has a "why" can bare almost any how.
Just be a little bit better than previous miserable self...
5. Do Not Let Your Children Do Anything that will make you Dislike Them
The idea that parents cannot dislike their children.... these are the pople who produce the most monstrous children...
The dark side of humanities roots reach all the way to hell
If you understand your darkside - you will understand all injustices in the world.
Give Appreciation - Share those observations - Encouragement
Know your own montrosity
You're going to be around your children a lot...so take care to prevent your reactions..
Consult your own irritability - let them know when your not in the best of moods...
Fundamental job as a parent - make child eminently desirable socially...great play mate....child knows how to play
A child knowing how to play is a real deep knowledge and life skill. A well socialized kid will always be rich.
Kids bring out the best in everyone if you care well for your children
6. Colombine Kids - Understanding Horrific Tragedy of Kids
Listen to your resentment
Have to learn about the uncomfortable things of yourself.
Resentment can be a great teacher of self-reflection...
Resentful people are not to be trusted....How do you treat your own resentment...
Blame is Lame - Maybe shouldn't be judging if haven't done everything possible to correct the siutation
Ask yourself, "how did I get here?"....take responsibility for your life with a fine tooth comb..."when did I go wrong?"
What would happen if I took responsibility for all my past miss takes?
Straighten yoursel out by not doing the things you know you shouldn't do. Try it out...see how things go. Give yourself some time. Test it out for a year...
7. Do What is Meaningful, Not what is Expedient
- Idea that christ died for your sins...psychological idea....Associated the idea with the 'shadow'
8. To stop being a Nazi - know that the Nazi is you
- self note - recognize the darkness within you
9. Assume the person you are listening to knows some that you don't (What you don't know is much more important than what you do)
If you listen you learn everything almost unexpectedly so.
Meaningful conversations you are engrossed within - Transformative.
Just listen to people
Listening - it's a very good thing.
Test your listening by asking the person if you got it right....in this way you summarize the points/arguments of your partner/friend...encouraged understanding and a real depth of intimacy..
The summary with listening isn't about winning...it's more of a fixing...fine tuning...
10. Don't bother children when they are skateboarding - Masculinity
We seem to have concluded that strong men are dangerous...bad atttiudes towards young men...
Historically ignorant...
11. Call to encouragement - Take Responsibly
Responsibility is so much so our Response Ability.
Make a Play
Play Often - It's your best Move
12. Pet a Cat when you encounter one on the street
Notice the unexpected beauty life
You will be faced with crisis - cut timeframe down to moment to moment management
If you face things - you can put up with a lot more than you think you can
You have to be alert when you're sufffering - see the unexpected beauty in life...
See the little bit of crystal within the darkness
Be grateful for what you have...can really help you get through some very dark times....can make it tragic and not hell...there's a huge difference.
If we didn't make terrible things worse...than maybe we could tolerate the bad things that happen