Hi, it’s your daughter. The one you don’t know.

I want you to know I forgive you. I forgive you for wanting me to be aborted and telling my mother that was what she should do with me. I forgive you for only coming to see me once, when I was an infant, and in that fleeting moment you declared I was a ’bad girl’ and then abandoned my mother and I.

I don’t know how you could look at your own infant daughter and say those things you said, or how you could wish me dead before I was even born. I’ll never understand that. As I look at my own baby daughter, I now more than ever cannot comprehend wishing your own child dead or choosing to have nothing to do with them.

However, God wanted me alive, and had a plan for me. And I’m thankful to Him for that, and that my mom wanted me, too. And He blessed me with a step-dad who did (and does) love me and did (and still does) his best for me.

I’m married now, and have a child of my own. My husband is the best husband I could’ve ever dreamed of or dared to hope for. He loves the Lord with all his heart, and he loves me with all his heart - he’s a continual treasure trove of blessings to me. And he’s the best earthly father. He loves our little girl so very much and tells her so. He does so much to help me care for her and happily spends a lot of time with her.

I hold nothing against you. I forgive you. At times I’ve wondered what you look like. I’ve wondered what traits I inherited from you - do I look like you? Would you look familiar if I saw you? Would I look familiar to you? Have you ever given me another thought? Wondered what kind of woman I grew up to be? Does it matter?

God had a plan for me. He still has plans for me. I survived. I’m still here. All by His grace.

I pray for you. I don’t pray that you’ll suddenly want to meet up with me and be my ‘dad’. I do pray that if you’re still alive, that you have repented of your sins and have a relationship with Jesus now. I pray you are seeking Him with all your heart. I pray your hurts have been healed the way that mine have. I pray that you love those people who are in your life and treat them well. I wish you all the best.

-The daughter you never knew