Knowing human personality is not something you can figure out by just looking at their physical self because it's easy for humans to pretend until whenever, but in the end, it can't last forever; their true self will reveal itself in the long run. The sentence "Don't judge a book by its cover" works in two different ways: it might be on the good side and likewise on the bad side. Nowadays, this present generation doesn't care about who you are; all that matters is that once you have something to offer, the rest doesn't matter. Some are in suicidal relationships today because they let the glitter sweep them away. Once the other gender seems good-looking and has the money (which is what everyone is after now), they are okay.
Before going into a relationship, I do take time to get to know my partner better, but I guess one cannot be careful enough. When you think you have reached your final destination after careful observation, it turns out that you are back at square one. One can't have it all, but trying one's best toward perfection is what matters most. At a certain age in a girl's life, her parents are always concerned about who she moves with and where she goes. I guess my parents felt the same way. My mom called my attention one day, and just as a typical Yoruba mother will react, she started asking questions about my relationship life, which I decided to keep to myself for a long time, but since she asked, I guess I will have to give a response to her questions.
I met a guy at my workplace 2 years ago who looks decent enough for any lady who desires a man. We've been on talking terms for a while, and he showcases good qualities that would make any lady fall in love, but amidst these good qualities, he has some hidden behaviors kept underneath his bright and charming smile. He had what it takes to be a complete man, as he has a comfortable car and a standard home for an ideal man. Being careful enough to consider all his attitudes and behaviors, I decided to give in to his advances and start something that might later end in marriage based on a 50/50 chance. Just as I said earlier, you can't pretend for long; your true self will surely reveal itself underneath your camouflage.
The beginning was quite impressive with lots of fun but I guess he couldn't keep it up for long. He became aggressive over a little misunderstanding, with different abusive words which became unbearable over time. Still trying to understand what might be going on but can't compromise my self-respect over a relationship, I tried to talk things out, and probably agree on a reasonable conclusion but that didn't work out. Before it turns into a physical abuse relationship rather than the mental one he has been showcasing, I had to let go and that was the best decision I made for myself then I realized that not all things that glitter are gold.
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