When Society Decides, Where Does My Will Go?

I laughed when I read the prompt because I could count only a few times when I acted from my will, everything especially society seem to influence my thoughts and actions. It's funny because I remember I was one of the kids back then who can't wait to be an adult so I could do whatever.

Growing up to becoming the adult I am today, it's like the society is on my neck in every decision I try to take. I can hardly say I act by my will, I'm either trying to follow God's will or my parents' will or what my peers have somehow make me think I have to be a part of, unspoken standards.

I'm done with university and service, the only next line of action according to my society and my family is that I get married. It's a pressure but somehow I'm still forcing through to live my will because I know nobody will help me make a marriage work should I go into it in a wrong way.

I remember how I had to take a course I wasn't interested in, I had to go to school because most of my mates had long started the journey and I was always home. People around thought going to school, regardless of the course is the only way for me to belong to the societal standards.

I can't even count the number of times I've been looked down on or talked badly to by my peers just because I've refused to act like them in vices they know is destroying them but can't stop so they are looking for who will join them. It's crazy really. Humans are freewill by nature as created.

But it's sad that humans themselves have created standards, rules and opinions that are shaping their lives to the extent of them not having a say in their own lives. I read a response that said freewill or mum's will, it's funny but I can totally relate with that especially now in my life.

We have free will, I have my free will but no, nobody can exercise it freely. I guess it's a freedom that comes with limitation and there's hardly a way to change that so long we have humans still ruling and bringing in more rules and standards. I see the recent one about men, sad.

I know men are meant for the hard work but it doesn't really men should have to bend to the unspoken rules that they can't have shawarma, pizza, malt, ice cream like the ladies do. Nobody have said these foods are feminine but somehow, men who eat them are seen as weird.

There are so many ways society has succeeded in limiting the freewill man has, so we can say for sure that man is not exercising his freewill but if man really has it? Yes, we do. In the whole societal involvement, many are living the lives they want by minimizing unending societal voice.