Just like how electrical charges have positive and negative, so is it with people, we have positive people and negative people.
The positive people are fun to hang around, they bring the best out of you. They aren't judgemental but they'll definitely point out your weaknesses with respect because they love you and want to see you do well.
Then we have negative people who see the opposite, only the bad things. Some people are pessimistic by nature and that doesn't make them negative. The negative people are mostly rude critics who are filled with nothing but hate and bitterness for you, with or without a cause.
You could search your mind and find no fault or way you wronged them. Perhaps it's how much progress you're making that they're envious of.
After you mature, there's a chance you'll cross paths with someone like that. No matter how good the day is and no matter how well you do, they’ll find something to complain about.
What's the right way to handle such people?
Negative people can only have an effect on you after they've interacted with you. Now I'm not saying avoid them completely because in some cases you just can't. However the one thing that gives them power to infect you and your motivation with their negativity is the attention you give them. So basically you're giving them power by paying more attention to them.
Attention is their food, that's how they get their energy to keep bringing negativity, so your best move is to starve them. By that I mean, deny them of attention. Any living thing denied of food will eventually die, it's just a matter of time.
Even if the negativity doesn't die immediately, it won't grow since you're not feeding it with your attention, it'll only get weaker until it has no more power over you.
The trick is in your own self control. If you can control yourself not to dance to the tune of a negative person, they'll stop playing their music.
Your reaction to toxicity or toxic behavior is so important. The more you react to them as they expected, the more you tell them what they're doing to you is working.
If only you can master the art of not giving them a reaction, you'll save yourself from so much unnecessary burdens and emotional pain.
It's not easy to ignore when it's actually bothering you, but understand this fundamental principle of the human mind, whether something is a problem or not depends on how we see it in our minds. The mind is really where the battle is, not with the negative person.
If someone does an evil thing to you, it causes emotional pain to you because you're thinking about it. Try to give your attention to other things, things that'll bring joy in your heart. Something that'll motivate you to keep working harder in life. Anything you think about determines your emotional state.
Get rid of all the negativity they put inside your head. They literally planted thoughts in your head and left, to return another day to do more planting. Mostly, it manifests in self doubt, especially the criticisms and the troubling comments they pass about you. It hurts because you're still thinking about it.
The sweet memories you have about you and your loved ones, when you bring it to mind, what do you feel next? Happiness. It really is all about what you choose to focus on.
Somethings are so devasting it's more difficult to avoid thinking about it. Perhaps the effect of their actions is staring right at you so you can't avoid seeing it. It makes it much harder to not think, but the best solution is to control the things you pay attention to.
Our brains can be trained, trained to think in a certain pattern. Positivity is a good thing, so train your brain to think more about it.
You refusing to feed the negativity is actually an act of self respect and self love to you. Just know the difference between negativity and constructive criticism and choose helpful advice, not hateful comments about you.
