Friendship could hurt so badly when messed up just within a few days. It makes you question "what happened? How come? What went wrong? Could I be at fault? Should I have said sorry?"
Most times, some broken friendships would not bring answers because you never know what went down the radar. It could be devastating and worrisome, you know?
My friend has been heartbroken for a long time now and she just opened up to me two weeks ago of what she has been passing through. She is in a deep sense of sadness and disappointment because of the lost friendship she valued and cherished.
The truth is that I feel for her more. I understand how saddening it could be to lose years of friendship and do not know why it happened. She has done her part to find the reason, she needed a quick solution to bring back the dead friendship but it seems like the more she seeks answers to why it happened, the more tightened the situation becomes as the other lady is not ready to open up.
Do people value real relationships or friendships? Will they allow something to destroy what they have built for years?
My friend is feeling lonely and thinking about their relationship. She went down memory lane on how they helped each other, walked together, played, planned her wedding together, laughed, cried, and supported each other and this lady does not mind letting this wash away.
Losing friendship is the worst thing that could happen to some people especially when they so much cherish such a bond with each other. Letting go of the sweet memories, how you have helped each other grow, and because of a trivial issue that could have been resolved amicably, you decided it's over. How do you feel about deciding that?
It's always hard on the other person who does not want it to end because of this kind of a person who do not understand the true meaning of love. When she was explaining how it happened some years ago which she is just opening up to me now, I couldn't stop pitying her because I know how the friendship had started even before meeting her. My friendship with her is over 16 years and she has been friends with this lady before meeting me. They both went to the same secondary school and till they got married three years ago, things have gone worse between them.
I do not like it when people choose to end a relationship instead of settling the fight with each other. They believe life moves on and they could create new ones along the way, but to me, I believe in the devil you have known for years than the angel you are meeting for the first time.
The reason is that the devil you have known for years would have been with you, knowing each other's flaws, attitudes, behaviours etc while a first time angel could end up harming you. Though it may take years to build your trust with each other, it can't be compared to someone you have known for years.
Even if I have to cut off from a friendship, it would be on a good note so that it would be easy to smile at each other when we meet somewhere else in the future.
In my tribe, they say that when you have known your mistake, you wouldn't stay too long begging for forgiveness, but in a situation, you do not understand how or why something happened, the other person might not tell you what you did and he or she may decide not to forgive you. My friend said she didn't know what she did and even when she had gone to meet the other lady, she was not ready to open up and this breaks her heart the more.
If one truly cherish friendship, he or she would do what it takes to get it back. The love has grown so much that it's hard to let go. She is working her best to make it work again and I hope they resolve it.
