There is this common stereotypical name trending now and it's “Fear Woman.” It makes me wonder those saying it, don't they have siblings, aunt and most especially their mothers at home? So, does it mean they should fear their mothers too?
Just because of the bad experiences some guys have had with girls, they now assume all are the same. Why would someone choose to include me with those girls that have done worse to them? Have they come across me? Have they encountered all girls to conclude all girls or women are the same?
I don't think anyone has the right to tag any gender as being bad or dangerous just because you were given a taste by someone, whereby you never had a glimpse of others. Someone acting bad to you doesn't mean others would when you meet them. We still have some good people in the world.
One thing about me is that I love to be gentle and mind my business, because of that, they see me as a holy person who is always conscious of what she says. The first time I wore a trouser to class during my NCE program, a guy saw me and was like “Everybody please come out. Is this Busayo the new girl that just came into the hostel?” He couldn't believe I wore trousers because of how I used to dress.
All my clothes have been all skirts and long gowns some years ago and that was how I was drilled to dress then and they assume I am a holy person who doesn't wear trousers.
My act of avoidance and being gentle when people are discussing fights or misunderstandings made people misjudge me. Saying I don't care about people.
If only they know the kind of person I am. I love to avoid anything trouble and I wouldn't want to settle a fight, in the process, my head got hit by a stone or hard object. So, I would have made you know I don't know how to end scores and they should try to avoid it too.
When people are reporting others to me, the only thing they will hear from me is “It's okay. Just ignore and let go. All is well...” and that is it but they want more than that. What is my concern? I go my own way and I think people should not always stereotype people for who they aren't. This is why getting to know someone is important to know his or her principles.
Ever since I have been writing exams, I would be the one to finish first in the hall and most times, it's either people are through but waiting for someone to submit first and in this case, I submit first and I think that is what people used to observe.
There was this guy. I never knew him before. We weren't on talking terms but he has always observed me during exam time and the day he came to meet me still baffles me.
He said why would I always submit first. Is it to show that I am intelligent and know books? He said I am being proud. He threatened to deal with me the next time I try such again because to him, I was acting like one who knows it all.
They say when one is fully prepared for an examination, you are safe because there wouldn't be a moment for you to start eating the cover of your pen, not knowing what to write or trying to seek answers from other students. I don't ask for answers in the examination hall and this is why I read all my books from cover to cover to make sure I wouldn't be missing anything on that day.
For such a person to confront and attack me that way, it was obvious he never reads because these are guys who will only show up when it is examination period or test and you will not see their faces during lectures. So, is it my fault to finish my work on time?
I was pained and disturbed for some days. Though it was so funny when I gisted my friends about it.
Please, when you have read and are sure of what you wrote down in the exam hall, what should stop you from submitting and going your way especially when you have to prepare for the next paper that same day? So hilarious but at the same time, he threatened me and I was scared.
I was told there is nothing he would do. For the final exam we did, I did the same thing and luckily for him, he sat in a line beside me but unluckily, I didn't answer him when he was asking for an answer 😅 Ever since then, he never approached me again.
I don't know why people will always misjudge others. You are not the person and you don't know him or her. We have to get close to people first to avoid misinterpreting them for who they are not.
Sometimes being stereotyped is painful to the victim because he or she would be willing to change for you and not for them.
I will never budge when people are saying otherwise to me because I care less about what others say. This is how I want everyone to act too because we all have more important things to do than worrying over what the next person said about us.
Focus on your life and ignore whatsoever people are saying about you. Once you are doing the right thing and for the best reason, you don't have a problem.
