One thing I love among couples is sticking to each other till death, keeping to each other's vows and never leaving themselves no matter the situation of life. It's normal to have misunderstandings, but the ability to resolve it between each other makes life beautiful with love being at the center of their marriage life. Whenever I hear stories of couples who stood together till God answered their prayers, and never for once got tired of where one leaves the other, I knew immediately it was a God-ordained marriage.
Marriage is meant to be the best moment of one's life, getting to be tied with your better half and enjoying the sweet and bitter experiences together. There will be fights, arguments, and disagreements, but in the end, they embrace each other knowing fully well it is normal for such moments to happen. Communication is what matters. Once two people can communicate and agree on something, that is the greatest love ever. Gary Chapman said that love is not the answer to everything, but it creates a climate of security in which we can seek answers to those things that bother us.
Many times, when I listened to my late Grandma's story of her marriage life, I knew they had God as their master planner and the one controlling it for them. With a smile on her face, she would narrate her sweet and glamorous wedding ever with her husband and how things went before Grandpa left her many years ago. Her wedding was the first white wedding she had in her family, they both kept to their vows even when things turned upside down. Grandma went to labour 11 times, but only 5 are alive today. With this, her husband stood by her side.
| Grandma and Grandpa on their wedding day | When they became old |
|---|---|
Times when they had misunderstandings and heated arguments, no one, including their children got to know about it. They always kept it secret and away from their children and after some hours, they resolved it amicably. She was proud of her husband and would say she got a good husband. Grandpa was always ready to listen to her, knowing that women would be women. They both listened to each other with their undivided attention until issues were resolved.
Listening to her story, communication was apparent. When there is love, communication will be smooth. With constant communication, comes a life filled with love and peace, there wouldn't be a long fight as they would quickly understand each other. Both of them were willing to pay attention to each other and they were able to agree and come to a compromise.
Their marriage life is something I want too. It makes me have a love language which is "Quality time". When there is quality time for each other, there would be smooth communication and understanding which would make peace strive in a home. This is something I have seen among a few couples and there, you see each other giving themselves sweet nicknames, going outings and appreciating their love life. I love such love where both have become friend of friends with each other and there isn't any gap for third parties.
In my past relationships, I never had such kind of love and none lasted longer. Praying and wishing for a relationship with love and its qualities in it. I want a love where there would be smooth communication, togetherness and understanding among us and spending the best time till death do us part. I want a vow that would stick till the last day on earth because that is what I call "true love" no matter how things are.
