It is said that opportunity comes but once, we all know that some people have so many opportunities but they couldn't grab them while some have just one in their lifetime and they lost it because of what people will say or what some other people are doing.
When I was living with my mom I have so many opportunities but she wouldn't let me have it all in the name of I am a girl child.
I was in a choir in my mom's church and it was a very big church, so many artists during the church anniversary and I use to be among the instrumentalist because I can play the bell and some other drums.
I was already practicing how to play a drum set but because my mom won't let me go to practice often I wasn't perfect with the learning yet.
I was the one that always play bell the for those celebrities that always come to our anniversary in the church so because of that I was very popular in the church.
During one anniversary, one of those celebrities told our choir master that he wants me to join his group meaning that I will be playing an instrument for him in the studio.
I was so happy because playing an instrument is something that I love back then and I have always wished to play for a bigger artist like him but when our choir master told my mom about it she refused to let me join.
I asked her why because I see that as an opportunity to start something called a career and she said I am a girl and being a girl among instrumentalists is not that easy because some of them might find me attractive and once I don't do what they want I can't grow among them.
That reason was genuine to me back then because I was little and I might fall victim for real but when I grew up I realized that I should have taken that opportunity because it would have made me who I wanted to be.
Another opportunity that I lost was before I started working in a factory, there was an opportunity for me to work as a video editor in a movie production company but my sister wouldn't let me do it because of what people are saying about the production.
In our area back then artist always comes to act movies in our area even in our house, and I always go out to watch them.
One day I went out to watch the making as usual and I greeted one of the actors then she asked if am interested in acting but I said no that what am interested in is how to edit a video because I had little knowledge about it.
I told my sister about the opportunity but she refused because of the dirty act among artists.
Even after begging her for a day, she refused to let me work for them because of those men in the industry that do sleep with small girls there and that was how I lost another great opportunity in my life.
The opportunity that I grabbed was that I got to choose something that am interested in without my mom's permission because she doesn't like hairdresser work but I never told her until I finish up with my learning.
I was surprised that she wasn't angry maybe because I am old enough to choose what I want.
Later she came to Lagos with a very big dryer so that I can make use of it in my shop.
If only someone could turn back the hands of time I would have corrected some mistakes my family made me make but that was in the past now anyway.