NEVER ALLOW YOUR LIFE TO BE CONTROLLED BY THESE THINGS
Most people spend their lives at the mercy of circumstances, at the mercy of people’s opinions or the government’s decisions.
They keep saying if that didn’t happen, I would have been this or that, they keep wandering in the prison of circumstances.
Life can bring circumstances to you but it doesn’t mean those circumstances are meant to stay in your life.
If you want to live a beautiful and happy life, never allow yourself to be controlled by the following things.
YOUR PAST:
It is called a past cos it is really past, gone and should be forgotten. Yes, some memories are really hard to erase but that shouldn’t be a reason for you to keep reliving those memories. Your past can imprison you, Your past can separate you from life’s blessings, Your past can teach you better and your past can make you live life in circles.
Its your choice to choose what your past does to your life and your beautiful future. Let it go and move on. Yesterday’s pain or gain should be left behind so you can focus on your now and future. Your past doesn’t have to define who are. You are the only one who has the right to define who you really are.
Your past is a sinking ship, sinking as the day goes by. Don’t allow yourself to be in that ship when its going down. Get off and move on.
There are still many rivers to cross, many things to conquer, many more beautiful years to live……
PEOPLE'S OPINIONS:
Never allow people’s opinions and judgments to control the direction of your life. No matter who those people are. The need to fit in and feel wanted can cause you to go down paths you do not want to.
At all cost, avoid pleasing people always especially when it has to do with serious decisions you have to take.
Before doing anything, ask yourself, am I doing this because I want to? Or am I doing this because of my fear of judgment from others if I don’t? Do I really want to do this? Will this make me happy and fulfilled?
You are born unique for a reason. Don’t live other people’s lives. Live yours. Don’t let other people live their lives through you. Shut them out and live your life.
Shine bright like the star you are. No one can shine for you. Not even your parents or your children. Shine for yourself, those who really care for you will see that light and shine with you.
Learn to believe in yourself. There is nothing you cannot do. Other people’s believe in you and support should be secondary. You first need to believe in yourself!
RELATIONSHIPS:
If you are always needing someone else to be happy and feel complete, then you are always one moment away from a break down if that person leaves you. I’m not saying relationships should be avoided. There is no force on earth that is greater than love and connection. I’m talking about those who can’t live if they aren’t in a relationship, those who will settle with anyone just to avoid a moment been single.
What I’m saying is to develop enough mental strength to get to the point where you don’t need others to make you happy. What others do can only add to your happiness and not control your major happiness.
MONEY:
This is a major controlling factor. Money is not evil. Do not allow yourself to be controlled by money. If you are making a decision only cos of how much money is involved, you’ve just made the wrong decision. Follow your heart and move with the intention to help others, meet needs, give your best to others, then the money will come. And it will come in far greater amounts.
If you want to make money, stop chasing money. Look for a need and meet it and money will follow you. Even an ordinary information that is highly needed can fetch you some good money.
Never be desperate to make money. Money made through the wrong way always has a way of leaving.
I always tell people that no matter how long you have been on a wrong road, it still doesn’t make it a right road. You can live 10 years doing the wrong things or living a life you never wanted, it doesn’t make it right just because you have lived 10 years or more in it. IT IS STILL A WRONG ROAD.
The moment you turn around and get on the right path even from day 1, things will change.
Challenge yourself to live a life free of control by anything.
