Relationship with a person is not something that emanates from that person. It emanates from you. Everyone is prone to see his own reflection in the world. Everyone looks worn out for a tired man. Sick for a sick one. Lost for a lost one. We don't see the world, but the content of our mind.
Harming others, you hurt yourself. Helping others makes you feel good. You bear the reasons of your own misery or bliss, a heaven or a hell is inside of you. Whatever happens to you, it happens because you you. The external reasons are secondary, the inner reasons is where you have to look at. If you don't realise that, the inner change will not be possible. If the reason is outside, if it's outward, then you would always be in slavery, because you simply won't be able to change the external reasons. The true reasons are inside. On the outer plane there is nothing but excuses.
You can try to change your environment, but if your inner world remains the same, nothing's going to be changed. The inner psyche setup would create the same patterns again and again, because a man lives from the internal towards external. You carry a heaven or hell in you, like a spider carrying it's web inside. Wherever it goes, it brings that web, spreading it all over. And when a spider wants to leave, the web's soaked up inside. Wherever you go, you bring yourself and recreate your own image right away.
Remember, it depends on you, your ability to be aware of what's happening. Be alert. Watch yourself, observe your thoughts. There's no place where you could run away from yourself. If there's hell inside of you, you would bring it anywhere you go.
