’1. Make your expectations known. If you don’t want kids, let it be known. If you’re looking for a spouse, let it be known. If that person isn’t on the same page, don’t waste too much time trying to change people.
Date outside the box......meaning date the ones you wouldn’t have given a chance.
NEVER, NEVER, NEVER lower your standards. Don’t apologize for your intelligence, your career, your money. It’s yours, like your body, so don’t give it away. Your biological clock is not ticking. Janet Jackson just had a baby at 54.
Look very carefully at his or her ways!!! DON’T rush things….seek God first!!
Don’t ever settle! Have standards. Be patient. Communicate in person.
Stay true to yourself and your core values. When you do this, you will attract people with similar morals and values.
Stop searching for your mate…find a friend…find a comrade…find a support system…find a teacher…find a selfless lover…find a companion who will compromise for you…find your PERSON and you will find your Soulmate.
Be transparent
Be realistic and reasonable, but maintain your standards. Also, be self aware and be 100% sure of your worth. Pray that God gives you clarity in identifying him or her. Recognize that a person may not check all the boxes on your list at that time, but it doesn’t mean that they won’t in time. (Keep in mind you aren’t perfect either). Also, what you think you need is not always what you need. That’s where prayer comes in.
Advice for ladies: give those nerds a chance to love you good. Ladies have been missing out on good dudes because they don’t give the nerdy dudes a chance.
Stick to it! At times you’ll get discouraged so you must keep going. Write down what you want and don’t settle, don’t compromise or dumb yourself down. Go to quality places to meet different types and do things differently. Date outside your race. Don’t make yourself available or waste your time on NO WIN situations. Ask friends if they know single people?
Don’t toss your pearls to the pigs. Let God choose your mate!
Which advice was your favorite?
