Excellent day to everyone here this is my first am posting in this community.
Change is something that everyone experiences in life. Change in life is constant. Everyone has one thing they're not happy with and so they will need a change.
The one thing I would like to change about myself is my reserved nature which people often misunderstand as anger.
I have this mindset of being straight forward and tagging everyone along whenever issues arises but people around me always think that I am angry with them even when i am not ,
Most at times , I prefer being myself without speaking even when people expect me to say something.
People begin asking questions, or having a feeling that i am angry which is not true
I have a belief that it is not all the time that I should speak or make a comment on issues. I believe other people should be allowed to speak and express their own point of view.
Recently, a women's program was held in my church and in that program all branches of the church were gathered together because it was a conference meant for women empowerment.
I planned to attend the women's program with two other women who lived close to me. I personally went to inquire from the other two to hear their own arrangements for the program but they gave me excuses.
The first woman I met told me that she would not be able to make it. Her reasons were that the uniform given to her were of different colours and type and she was confused.
The second lady told me that she won't be attending because she lacked enough transport fare. I left them and decided to attend rhe program on my own.
On getting to the program venue, I saw the two women whom I had earlier planned to go with, who gave me excuses. I looked at them shocked but I said nothing to them. Even when other women inquired why we didn't come to the program together, I did not utter a word about the issue and went to enjoy the program.
Few days after the program, both women still came to meet me and brought up the issue of last time. They kept asking me if I as angry with them because they gave me excuses and yet, they still attended the program. They also tried to explain some things to me about what happensed on that day and why they later attended the program.
After hearing them out, I told them honestly that i was not angry nor was i upset with anyone of them. I'm tired of having to explain myself to people about why I am calm or reserved
The thought that whenever I am on my own with a serious face, people will think that I am angry with them is what i will really like to change so that no one around me will be of the mindset that I am witch-hunting them.
Thank you all for reading
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