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This week's question is a bit tricky for me; if the question were to be rephrased to When was the first time you told someone I love you, other than your family members, and sincerely meant it? that would have been a lot easier for me because I can remember that day vividly. But now I am left with cracking my head and wondering who I first told I love you.
Why this is difficult for me is because though I am an introvert, I am also very playful with a certain set of people, so I have playfully told different people I love you, even those I knew loved me then and wanted a relationship from me, and I don't feel the same for them, but I responded with I love you with the love of God or I love you like a friend or brother, so you see why it's really hard for me to remember.
I even remembered someone calling me a Jezebel when he found out that all the I love you too I responded to was just my person, not because I did love him intimately.
However, I stopped saying I love you back when I noticed those words meant a lot to people, unlike me, who had never fallen in love then. So I can't remember who I first told, I love you.
Before I got married, for a very long time I thought my love language was quality time followed by words of affirmation. My principle then was if you really love me, you will make out time for me, no matter how busy you are. Also, those words of affirmation would go a long way, as I always thought I needed to hear them every now and then. This doesn't mean I no longer appreciate quality time and words of affirmation.
But everything changed after I got married. I realized that my number one love language is acts of service. Before then, I didn't like anyone helping to do any house chores. I felt people couldn't do them the way I wanted, but I no longer feel that way. I really get excited now when people help me to do stuff, mostly when it's been done without me asking for help.
After act of service I think that's were quality time comes in also.
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