I do hear stories of how, in the olden days, it has always been that the boy child is preferred more than the girl child, and a woman can give birth to ten girls, but she is still not complete because she has not given birth to a male child. In our days now, we choose to not let that practice happen, and now we want to make sure we empower the girl child to also rise in status quo in society. This act is admirable, but to an extent,t, I find out that we are still practicing what was done in the olden days but on a different gender. Let me explain.
In the then days, the men go out to hunt, and the women are meant to stay at home as the weaker vessels and give birth to kids, although some ladies still went to the farm. Ladies like my grandma that will tell stories of how she always trekked from agbor to sapele (a two hours journey by car) to and fro every market day. Now women want to measure up with men in everything, which is admirable because I, too I'm guilty of that.
In a community we lived in in the southern part of Nigeria before my parents relocated, it was like a norm, or should I say tradition, that the women go out to work while the men sit by the riverside to discuss and while away their day on matters of no relevance. Sometimes, I cry for those women; we know we as women want to rise in all aspects of society the same way men ( the economic, political, educational factors, etc.), but I would prefer there should be a balance.
Also the annoying part of mums only grooming their females and leaving the males to loiter around, why? So that one girl will come and get married to him and start reaping the fruit of your negligence?
My mum really did a great job raising her kids because she did not just focus on her girls alone but made sure all her kids are grounded in the duties of the house although sometimes I complain because I'm the youngest daughter so they tend to shift chores to me, I can beat my chest anywhere that my Dad and my elders brothers are good cooks and home keepers, the fact that in this modern world we still allow our male children to loiter around and then turn our girl child to biological slaves. I know it is a practice to raise responsible mothers in the future, which is good what about responsible fathers? They too need to be groomed and not pampered to a fault then left to the lady that will get married to them to face it.
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