In life ,we all go through one struggle or the other ,
Sometimes it is best we save our energy for all the worst times that will come and be prepared about it to avoid depression or anything that will break us down when the bad times roll.
We learn everyday only to relearn our daily struggles in every situation we face.
Fortunately, learning and learning to remember well, will always be one of the most valuable skills in our personal and professional life.
It helps for both intellectual growth,
Mind growth,
Reasoning growth,
And soo much more..
Here is a short story about a lady who wanted to just be her best self,
She got alot of things to share as experience of life stages and i chose to call it life stages because we never can tell why some certain things happens as a result of troubles one gets to encounter while passing through some stages in life,
She never believed in getting married aside wedlock ,
She neve believed in being promiscuous,
She takes her time to know how to be the best and not settle for less because she worked hard enough to get the things she wants and life was fair to her aside from just one mistake she later made .
All her life she dreamt of having a nice husband,
Money was never her priority so she always considers that when a man has visions every other thing will fall in place .
At 25 she got engaged and the husband decided to finish everything and so they did introduction and traditional wedding for her,
She and her husband were both working and comfortable and so after the traditional marriage,she got pregnant and gave birth..
But things turned out bad because the husband was cheating on her while she was pregnant and it turns out that the very day she gave birth, he got in an accident that killed him .
2years after, she was robbed and raped in her home.
She did everything to prevent getting pregnant from such trauma,
And all her struggles proves to be abortive because she later got pregnant later .
The struggle,
The low self esteem,
The pain,
The trauma,
The victimisation of herself being in such sick situation was very taunting to her..
Her thoughts because suicidal and depression kicked in.
Then her friends and families were all helping her recover with encouragements and all .
At the end she bounced back and finally gave birth to the baby.
But it wasn't easy taking care of two kids alone ,she did her best for 4years and it was not easy at all ,so she decided to move back to dating again ..
In one year ,she got engaged 5times to 5men and it all ends after 2months once she mentions her having kids and opening up to the men, every man she meets and mention having 2 baby's ,they all will just start acting up and at the end they will end every thing.
It was really affecting her life so she decided to take the kids to her parents , "a boy and girl" and was just visiting them and sometimes bringing them to stay for holidays at her house .
She finally met a man that was interested in her again and this time she refused to tell him about her kids ,2years later he did both traditional and white wedding .
And it was on the day of her wedding that the husband got to know that she had 2kids she was hiding from him and he got this information from his elder brother.
He was so sad and angry, all he did was to go talk to her mum and she told him everything..
Well that was how the marriage ended that day and when she found out that he knows ..
There at the alter she started crying and the wedding didn't take place..
Just 1month later ,the man came back and decided to take her to another marriage counselling in which she narrated everything that happened and at the end he proposed again to her.
/They both did an indoor wedding just 1week after he re-proposed and that was how they both settled/.