I welcome you to my blog and another wonderful edition of the Hive Learners' featured post. I think we all have that one person we turn to when we need motivation or words of advice, and we share literally everything with them, both the good and the bad. Whatever happens to us, they are like the first people to know; you share your plans with them and want to hear their opinion. Sometimes it feels like if they have not weighed in on the matter, then you cannot proceed; it is their opinion or advice that kind of gives a direction and helps you draw to a conclusion.
No matter how introverted or how much of a loner you are, there is that one person in your life that hears at least 90% of your plans and the things that you plan to do before anyone else and even before you execute them. If there is a person that claims they don't have that one person in their life, then I think they need to be checked, as I feel that is very abnormal. Even if you don't share everything with that person, there has to be that one person that you share a few things with and are comfortable sharing with, and they also do the same in most cases.
That person in our lives can be a family member, can be a friend or can even be a neighbour, but we trust them to be happy for us when we share good news and also sad with us when we share sad news. For me, that person I turn to and share every single piece of information with has been my mum. When I have a plan and need another person's opinion before I proceed, it is definitely my mum's before I proceed to hear that of another person and try to compare which one favours me more. Both in sad and happy times my mum has been the one that either gets her heart burdened or gets her heart gladdened, and either way she has never complained and is still eager and always willing to listen to whatever I have to share.
In most cases for her, I am not the first person she shares good or bad news with because she has my father, who is her husband, and I cannot feel some kind of way that she dies because that is actually the right thing to do and the right way to go about things. For me, she might be my first, but for her, I cannot be her first because she has a husband who by right is supposed to come first. I have heard friends complain about how they open up to a friend, but that friend keeps things from them and talks about how it makes them feel.
If that person I share things with were a friend too and they kept things boxed or shared things with someone else before they shared them with me, I'd definitely feel the same way. I totally understand when you place somebody at a certain level and then they don't reciprocate and instead they place you in level way lower than where you must have placed them.
