Welcome to my blog and another wonderful edition of the Hive Learner's featured post. When it comes to parenting and child upbringing, everyone has their own method or perspective and what they believe in. I have seen people who believe that being raised by strict parents who always want their child indoors and never want to see them outside playing with other kids in the neighborhood would result in the child being spoiled when they get their freedom or when the child gets into college, and there are also those who believe that giving excess freedom to the child while still watching them closely would help keep them on track even when they are not being watched.
Parenting and child upbringing is one of the most difficult things we adults have to deal with, and the ability to differentiate between being strict or disciplining the child and being wicked or extremely strict makes it even more difficult. The presence of discipline in child upbringing cannot be overemphasized. During my Sunday school days, the teacher always sang a song about training a child in the way they should go so that when they are old, they will never depart from it. This shows that how a child is raised matters because whatever a child is taught at a young age sticks; the dos and don'ts, the rights and wrongs that their parents introduce them to, are what they will believe in till the end of time.
Many parents fail to discipline their children, but the truth is that failure to discipline your child as well as teaching them what is right and what is wrong will only land the parents in regrets, and they will wish they did discipline their child and at the right time. There is a right time to pass the needed knowledge and ensure that they are on the right track, just like my Sunday school teacher always says, because once it is past that time, no knowledge can be passed again, and it will take a lot of work to get them off the track they are on, which makes it very important that every parent start to discipline their child at the right time.
Disciplining a child and how it is done varies from one parent to another. There are some parents where the kids are punished for every single misbehavior or crime committed, while there are some parents who punish their child based on how grievous the crime committed is. For me, the best discipline style is one where the kids are punished based on how grievous the crime committed is. There are misconducts by kids that don't even need scolding, as all they need is for their parent or guardian to sit them down and talk to them or advise them, as well as tell them not to do such a thing again.
Punishing kids based on how grievous the crime committed is gives room for coaching and advising the kids as well as spanking them only when necessary; that way they will never get used to spanking and will never stop being afraid of getting spanked, and that will help to make sure that they do not go back to doing the same wrong deeds as they already have in mind what happened the last time they did such a thing and how it played out. Be a disciplinarian as a parent but that does not mean every misconduct by a child calls for a punishment, sometimes an advise can work.
