I welcome you to my blog. We have all lived long enough to learn certain things we never thought existed as well as start to believe in things we never thought a time would come where we would believe in them. Growing up as a child, there are many things I admired, things I thought were done just for fashion, and I believed it was actually okay to do them, but now as an adult, I have come to see that all I admired or believed to be fashion was not even worth the stress.
Many people have done things all in the name of fashion, but the amount of trouble what they did for fashion has caused them is something words cannot describe, something that was done for fashion but only attracts trouble instead of people or making you look attractive. Despite preachings against judging a book by its cover, a lot of people still judge people by their appearance. People don't want to get to know you, as they believe that your appearance says everything about you, and the moment your appearance gives off something completely different from who and what you are, they go with that and don't wait to get to know you.
Despite having a mom who was always there to remind you that "the appearance of a man is what gives him a seat at any occasion" or "you are judged based on your appearance," I really still wanted to dress in certain ways, and trust me, those ways I had in mind would not have even given me a seat at any occasion. Those things I considered fashion in our country today would have only given me a seat at the back of a police van if I had grown up still loving and wanting to journey that path.
As a kid I always admired tattoos and earrings even though my parents preached against them, but now as a grown-up I have come to realize that people with tattoos are always judged to be bad even without getting to know them. In my neighborhood, when anything bad happens, the first to be added to the suspect list are guys with tattoos and those with earrings. Even on the streets, I see how those with these things are treated and avoided because they have been stereotyped or many have been made to believe that anybody with tattoos is bad, and for that reason, people don't even want to get to know you as an individual before they draw their conclusions that you are no different from others.
Many people do not believe that first appearance matters, but with what I have seen so far, I have been made to believe that first appearance matters. It might not matter to everyone, as some people will want to know you as an individual before they draw a conclusion, but 80 percent of people on the face of the earth judge you by your appearance and don't even want to know you as an individual before they draw to a conclusion about the type of person you are.
