I welcome you to my blog. We are all born with unique talents, and we also grow up to learn more, but nothing beats an inbuilt talent that was only polished and perfected, not learned. Sometimes we think we know ourselves so well, but we don't, as there are certain things that we do and don't even know that we are doing them until we are told so. There are certain characters that we portray that others might be able to point out while we wouldn't be able to. In most cases these hidden characters are bad ones, and for a friend or family member to point it out simply means they are tired of tolerating you and want you to change.
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It is not quite difficult for us not to spot our physical features, as those are not always hidden at all. Whenever you look at a picture of you or your reflection, you will be able to point out that you are tall, have a spot around your neck, or have brown eyes, so you don't really need someone to point out your physical features for you, but when it comes to character wise or how one behaves, that is where we always need people to point it out for us and call us out when we are not on the right track. Not everyone has people in their lives who would be able to walk up to them and call them out, but some do and should be grateful to people like that, as they would always be there to tell you to your face what you are doing wrong instead of backbiting or complaining when you are not there.
A friend pointed out something I was doing and felt it was the right thing to do and made me understand how wrong I was, and for me, I did not see it as much of an issue until he pointed it out to me. I am not really the social media type of person; I can be online and not send a message to anyone, and if anyone sends a message, I will make sure I round up whatever I am doing on my phone or laptop before I respond to their message. That way, I will not be distracted and be able to finish whatever job I have at hand on time because going to respond to messages simply means I might return to the task until after some time.
To me, leaving the message unreplied was going to help me focus and as well help me avoid distractions since nothing distracts me more than when I am working on something and a message pops up. Going to reply to that message simply means whatever I am working on gets to wait, as from replying to a message I might start viewing status and from there get carried away. I try as much as I can to avoid distractions when I have a task at hand, and it has been so for years. I leave messages unattended to until I am done, and then I would reply to all messages, but this friend of mine was not okay with that. One day he approached me and said:
Michael: Do you know you are a snub?
Me: I am not
Michael: then why do you take forever to reply to messages online even though you are clearly online?
Me: I do that to avoid distractions.
Michael: You are still a snub until you stop that. Sometimes it is urgent, but you end up replying very late. If I did not want a reply immediately, then I would have sent you a letter.
I laughed at his reply even though I know he got it from a meme on Twitter, but he at least used it to pass his message and it sank in deep.
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I tried as much as I could to explain myself, but it felt like he came prepared, and I just had to accept that I was a snub, though it was not intentional. Now I try as much as I can to reply immediately, and if I won't reply after that, I tell the person I am a little bit busy and would reply late, saving myself from getting called out again, or someone else pointing out to me that I snub online because every other person that heard our conversation that day supported Michael, and I had no one on my side, which means everyone was seeing it as me being a snub except me.
