Ever felt like what you’re doing is not of your own free will? Has there been a time you felt you’re living your life based on what and how someone wants you to? Do you feel you don’t pull the strings in your own life and maybe you’re just a pawn or puppet in an elaborate scheme? What we’re going to talk about could be a reason for this.
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Manipulation involves the act of influencing or controlling others in a bad manner for personal gain. It mostly doesn’t appear as it is because we are made to believe what we want to.
Most signs of manipulation are not given much attention as they are considered to be normal.
Some examples include;
•Threats( which are sometimes considered as jokes)
•They pressure you to take action
• Taking advantage of our weaknesses
• They use your insecurities against you.
•They gaslight you into feeling you are the problem
• They try to make you let go of important stuff
• They try to make you less independent to the extent that you would need their validation to feel okay.
Most people get manipulated without even knowing it. Manipulation can be in our friendships, boy girl relationships and even with our family.
Most often , we tend to do stuff because we feel it’s our responsibility when in actual sense it is not. We fail to realise that we do not owe anyone anything no matter who they are.
People who care about what others think are mostly those who end up getting manipulated.
For example; some ladies are made to believe they are responsible for their partners behaviour and with this, the other party tends to take advantage of them. In situations like this, people find it hard to leave such toxic relationships.
I think the major reason behind many people getting manipulated is that they do not believe in themselves and what they are capable of.
To avoid being manipulated, one should;
•Communicate in clear and direct ways about stuff .
•Set boundaries
•Listen to their words
•Pay attention to their actions
•Maintain composure in such instances where you feel you’re being manipulated.
•Maintain your composure and your self respect
With these points , I hope we grow more conscious about such acts of manipulation.
I hope you enjoyed reading this. Thank you
