One thing about the world we live in today is the fact that none of us is perfect. No matter how much we try to achieve perfection, we can’t and that’s what makes us human. As human as we are, we are bound to offend each other once in a while. What matters most isn’t really the fact that you offended someone, it’s about how you handle the situation after that.
I always say that we all come from different backgrounds and so we all should try to give each other grace when it comes to some things. How you will handle a situation ma be very different from how another person will handle the situation. When it comes to what we say and the things that come out of our mouth, we need to be really cautious because any small thing and you’re in trouble.
One thing about human beings is that talk all the time. There are those people that don’t talk much and there are those that are literal radios all the time. Regardless of where you fall, you might offend someone with what you say in one way or the other. A while back, a close friend of mine made a statement about me that made me feel very uncomfortable and this let to our friendship not continuing again. Today, she’s just an acquaintance because I believe I can’t be friends with someone who will make such statements about me and public and think it’s totally okay to say that.
It’s not even about what she said but the fact that she was defensive about the whole thing. She even went on to add salt to injury saying all manner of things. All this would have been solved if she had just accepted her actions. Life doesn’t always go as planned but then again, we have to stand up for what is right. If something someone says doesn’t match with my values, I see no reason why I should tolerate them.
I can be a talkative at times, but I’m very selective with the things I say. I don’t just talk anyhow and when I do, I make sure to take at the right place and time. Not talking is also a sign of being in control. If you’re someone that always thinks people will take offense in what you say, then maybe you need to take a look at the kind of things that come out of your mouth because if you are always having issues with people with regards to that, you might actually be the problem.
There will always be someone who might not like some of the things you will say. But we thank God for learning , unlearning and releasing. You shouldn’t feel silenced over one mistake. You go back, work on yourself and do better. That’s how life works. You can’t please everyone but what you can do is be just to yourself and stand up for what is right. Speak the truth at all times and speak as someone with integrity. Pick your words well like eggs because your words can make or break someone.
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