Relation(tips)?

My first line is written at 5:25 am. In my head, a single thought.

😉 For now.

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Let’s see who dares to guess it.

Alright then, let’s talk about relationships while we figure out the word… I agree with the idea that each person is a mirror. What makes you fall in love with someone, whether as a partner or a friend, is something you already possess—it’s just hard to see it. Once you’re aware of that, you can bring out that extra spark, give yourself a little push, and as the song says (it’s subtitled in English):

Saber que se puede
Querer que se pueda
Quitarse los miedos
Sacarlos afuera

Pintarse la cara
Color esperanza
Tentar al futuro
Con el corazón

In the same way, what you detest or find irritating in another is something that also lies within you, and I believe you have two paths: to accept it or to correct it.

Over the years I’ve seen that people arrive who, if you pause to observe, have only come to repeat a pattern that once caused great pain or dissatisfaction in your life. Here too you have two options: either move forward with tenderness and leave that person behind, or go through the same experience once again.

The Universe will always send you such beings, dressed in their finest attire, like bait to test whether you have truly learnt the lesson. Once aware of the pattern you do not wish to repeat, you must let something within you speak—not rationality, nor objectivity, for the 3D is deceptive most of the time—and follow that advise.

For some time now I always ask myself: what has this person come to show me? What must I improve or discover within myself?

Having said that, I must also add that I have been alone, single, for several years. I’ve cleared out ‘friends’. I don’t think I had that many, but among those I thought I had, I realised there were even fewer. And I understood that the fault was not theirs, but entirely my responsibility. I was building friendships out of my own shortcomings, and that was precisely what I was getting in return.

Well, understanding that has made it possible for me to leave the door just a crack open, but before anyone steps into the living room, the newcomer must pass a test that is not simple. And the answer lies in the beating of my heart. Ah yes, the years I’ve been single… No, I won’t say how many, but it has been a long stretch rolling downhill, pushing the great rock uphill, sitting on the brink of surrender at the bottom of the precipice… and, well… like what you’ll see in the next photo: the sea.

In terms of friendships, I’m not interested in quantity but in quality. And I believe that by having a few things clear, the right people will be present in my life in that sense.

As for love, the person who will share life with me is chosen by my heart—if not fully healed, at least quite aware of the dangers out there. It will be someone who accepts me wholly without judgement, who walks beside me, and whose silences feel comforting because no words are needed for us both to know what we want, what we feel.

It will be someone who knows she has herself first, and then has me; someone I will not change or mould, because I am convinced she is perfect with all her imperfections. The same will come from her towards me, and it will feel genuine. We will not need accessories, nor a noisy life full of clutter, because we can always build worlds upon worlds from simplicity, from our dreams and longings.

Yeeep... It’s a little difficult to put into words… 😅 it’s something you feel first and then verify. I’m speaking of the future, yet at the same time these ideas are well grounded in my present… I’m tangling myself up, but anyway:

What truly matters between us when everything unnecessary falls away?

Above all, self-love matters, and from that love, everything shared will be well paved, balanced. It will be a path we will delight in walking, and of this we shall never doubt, whatever happens.