Parents suddenly start feeling emptiness in their lives when their children grow up. And that's a difficult phase to deal with, it takes some time for them to come to that understanding. And I believe that here the parent and child both have to work together to cross this phase. My son is a grown up boy and he is a independent man. Some times when I nag him he gets irritated with me. I tell him, that in all his growing up he needed all that care, attention and love from me, which I gave him whole heartedly and now suddenly he wants his space, which is difficult for me also to adjust. He is a matured boy and some times in the moment we have our disagreements but then later we sit and talk out our feelings and emotions on the matter with a open heart, listen and understand each other.
From his point of view also he is right and neither am I wrong, it's just the course of nature that plays up. Even in my growing up it was the same case, where I would want to be all by myself without interference of my parents. But now being a parent and standing at that phase of life, I understand what my parents must have gone through with me.
It's not easy to give up children, especially in my environment. But as children grow up they too have their life, they will also have their own family and move on. Thank god in India we still do have a lot of joint family concept which keeps up bonded with each other. I just believe that even if children and parents do not stay together after the children grow up, but still they must be connected with each other and care for each other. Be there for each other when needed, because that's what a family is all about. A family is just not about husband, wife and children. As family grows then grandparents, in-laws, siblings and all of these extensions also are still very much a family.
Some time back I had visited an old age home, and I felt so pained to see some of those old people left by their children in that old age home. They may be having their own reasons and I am no one to judge them, but still I feel that if they cannot keep them together they can come and visit them regularly, that's the least they can do, but some do not even do that, which hurts like hell. Children can have their own life but that does not mean they need to discard their parents completely from their life.
My dad went away too soon, mom is there and I really dread the day when she will not be around. She is so much part of my life, that just the thought of not having her some day kills me. It's such a beautiful bond of life and one must cherish it.
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