Seeing today's topic, a typical freelance of what we have been asked to discuss today but quite different in measure, I sipped and weighed it but the result is that it would be a two edged sword. Upon realizing that my current parents are not my biological parents would not be a good one at all. You all know that in the African parlance:
Blood is Thicker Than Water!
Therefore, the first thing that would occur is the feeling of being a stranger in the home where I have lived all my life till this time-bomb moment will arouse. As humans, one thing that makes us distinct is that we have emotion and as such, when something of this magnitude happens, it leaves a big hole and questions in our mind. As one who has conscience, this won't lay low. There are questions that must be answered from all facets.
The length of time before the cat is let out of the bag is an issue in this case. I know that my foster parents may want to thread carefully but I think it is wiser that I am informed early enough. On the other hand, it may be that they want me to be mature enough to handle such a situation before breaking it to me, I understand but it would also appear that they are keeping more secrets away from me.
This should be one of the biggest questions I may want to ask. Everybody has an origin. It is best that I find out where I come from. My root is very important. Just like Ajay Crowther who was taking away into slavery and upon the abolishment of slave trade and the slavery institution, traced his roots back to Abeokuta. I would not want someone to tell me that I do not know where I come from. As an African, where I come from is part and parcel of my complete being.
As much as my foster parents aren't at fault on this matter, they have only played the role of being good fellows for assuming the function of parents to me these past years, I think they would be able to put the records straight to me. More information about me would be told. Whether my biological parents are alive or dead, where they come from and whatnot. And if otherwise, the orphanage from where I was adopted.
I will take the pain to get to the end of this matter. That is very sacrosanct.
We know the tussle that usually occurs between siblings,especially when their parents are very rich. A typical example is what is happening in the family of Late M.K.O Abiola. With such an announcement, I may not be offered a heritage from the inheritance of my foster parents.
Their biological children could begin to see me as a gold digger, hence, the case of being alienated could rise. There are many possibilities in this case.
The feeling of being an outsider cannot be ruled out. Even if my foster parents have been kind and supportive all these past years, I would still have a prick in my heart that I am not a full-blooded family member. Sometimes, for a person with a fragile heart like me, I could begin to feel that I am not wanted.
This may arise because if my foster parents had summoned the courage to tell me that I am not their biological child, that may be because they do not want me to feel bad when they begin to take some kind of decision that may not favour me.
My foster siblings may not have my total support or I may also not be able to give complete support to them as it were before the announcement.
Basically, life may generally change in that I would need to begin to discover who I really am.
Such news may change a person's countenance for the rest of his or life. I may not be able to trust people completely anymore. Certainly, I won't be the kind of person I had always been. I just pray that such news does not come near my doorstep.
