Mothers are very strong.
Mothers are super skilled, multi-talented, and multi-skilled people.
Motherhood is just simply the most powerful human being you can be.
Despite the wonders of being a mother, there come the challenges of being a mother.
No one told me about...
- Physical recovery
No one told me about how hard it is to recover after giving birth. I had a glimpse of how it looked when my sister had a CS delivery. However, she was always being guided and supported until she could. Me, myself have been always so self-reliant. It was hard for me to ask for help even after I gave birth. After I had a CS delivery, after less than 48 hours I got out of the hospital because I already could. I needed to depend on the people around me for days, which brought out the frustration in me.
- Hormonal changes
No one told me about the hormonal spikes. Most people (guys) say that women are moody. I wasn't one of those girls/women who are moody whenever I had my period. Months after I gave birth and got back my period, I suddenly became so snappy. It was a weird feeling for me, and I thought that it was just about the situation. Months passed, and I noticed a pattern. I would always become snappy a week before and the week of my period. Then I thought, damn, that's what 'THEY' mean.
- Isolation
No one told me that being a mother could be isolating. Shout out to stay-at-home moms! Our day-to-day life revolves within the 4 corners of our house. Lucky you if you can afford a babysitter or a helper. For those who can't afford it, we are stuck in an isolation area.
- Loss of identity
No one told me about having to disregard decades of my life being me and then becoming a different version of myself. I have to build another persona. A mom-persona with no manual on how to be a mom. I have to be a friend, a girlfriend, a wife, and a mother. I have to be multiple versions of me, but the least priority is to be myself.
- High expectations
No one told me about being a SUPER in the Supermom. Multitasking is easy for me. I can manage many things at the same time, so I might already have adult ADHD (hyperfocus). Multitasking as different versions of myself with actual tasks and managing different people that need attention? Yeah, brain tired.
- Guilt
No one told me that I have to switch off MYSELF. Love is unconditional, yes, but from time to time, feelings rise and mom-guilt comes in. I have to be the mom version of myself, putting my family before myself first.
Motherhood is a very powerful thing that only women can do. I feel so blessed and happy whenever I see my child happy and healthy. I am also very thankful to my family and friends, mom friends who I was able to get support and help from. Their tips and their insights or POVs helped me a lot. I just wished that I was told a few cons or challenges that would come my way.
original content by Micontingsabit
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