There are times we just have to sit back and ask ourselves the reason why we make friends. Are we making friends for the purpose of progressing or just for fun? The impact of friendship on one’s existence cannot be overlooked.
There was a motivational speaker. I watched his video some time ago, and he said, “Your fate of either becoming great in life or remaining stagnant depends on the circle of friends you have”.
That's just the bitter truth to it, the influence our friends have over us is most of the time ignored, we just see them and say, “after all, they are my friends.”
I have heard a lot of people who have become successful due to collaborative efforts from their friendship. And I have also seen a lot of people who met their demise and got bad luck just because of the type of friends they have.
I really wish for all of my friends to be successful in life, and I wish for us to get to greater heights together. Because I don’t see any joy in succeeding alone while your friends aren’t.
My definition of friendship: Friendship to everyone might turn out to be so different, and the reason behind befriending someone might differ. But in all honesty, I feel one should make friends with like-minded individuals.
I don’t really give special criteria for selecting a friend. I just have this mindset that someone who will be a friend will always want to stay and be around. No matter what, they will always show up.
So those who are around you for a reason are not good enough to be a friend. You don’t have to send them away, but you just have to be watchful of them. A true friend most times has no specific reason to remain by your side. This is why they are always ready to turn up, no matter the situation and circumstances one finds themselves in.
If friendship should be based on religion, then I have met with a lot of people who appear to be religious on the outside but evil on the inside. I also know of some people who just don’t want to make friends with the opposite sex due to reasons known to them. And I have seen some people have their best friends to be the opposite sex. It all comes down to the purpose of friendship.
So far, I have been with a lot of amazing friends. I am grateful for having them in my life. It’s not all about having a lot of them, but all about having those who can remain with you.
Yesterday, a friend of mine called me just to check up on me. I am sure she was just out of thoughts about me and felt she hadn't heard from me for a while. She reached out to me, and I was so happy to hear from her. It made my day.
Friends are most of the time gifts from above; you just get to meet with them, and they are into you. There is a mutual connection that you feel comfortable with. If you don’t feel safe, comfortable, and open around someone you see as a friend, then they are not your friends.
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